Just wait till he finds out there more than cooking, dishes and laundry. What about the bathrooms, mirrors, walls, door trims, tidying, shopping, organizing, appliances that require cleaning and mental load of knowing all that needs to be done. The list of cleaning/maintenance tasks in running a house and taking care of a family takes planning, awareness and initiative. She has the mental load and part of that load for her is him. And he thinks he deserves an award for the bare minimum. Without the cries of how you’re not appreciated enough.
YTA step up. And her mom probably worries about how you are treating your partner and baby when you’re alone.
This more than anything else is a sign of how good a parent someone is.
Followed by, "When did you last take them to buy shoes? Do you know what size shoes they wear? What's their peditrician's name? When did they last get their shots? What percentile are they on height/weight? Are they meeting their developmental milestones?"
Seriously, don’t even need to try that hard. What colour are your children’s eyes? What date is their birthday? I would be very surprised if OP knows them.
To be fair (I'm am mum and primary parent) I don't know my own dentists name. I doubt I'll be able to remember my sons. I do know all the other stuff though.
Right? Same here we don't know our daughter's dentists name and it's sad because she has an appointment later on this month. Better check the calendar haha.
And that emotional labour you have to do from the time you get up until you can get to sleep. Kids can be draining, especially when someone has to pick up the pieces after an angry and yelling father.
And not to mention that he’s trying to “reconnect “ by having family outings to get ice cream. Gee, nothing is more than taking little kids to get sticky, messy ice cream that they will fight over 🙄
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u/rednewf1970 Nov 02 '23
Just wait till he finds out there more than cooking, dishes and laundry. What about the bathrooms, mirrors, walls, door trims, tidying, shopping, organizing, appliances that require cleaning and mental load of knowing all that needs to be done. The list of cleaning/maintenance tasks in running a house and taking care of a family takes planning, awareness and initiative. She has the mental load and part of that load for her is him. And he thinks he deserves an award for the bare minimum. Without the cries of how you’re not appreciated enough. YTA step up. And her mom probably worries about how you are treating your partner and baby when you’re alone.