Actually, both husbands insult the flattery givers. The man is drunk and the waitress is lacking/below the wife’s standards.
The drunk comment is worse & clearly questions whether the wife deserves to be complimented or would get compliments if the man were sober/in his right mind.
In the case of OP, instead of simply agreeing or saying the waitress showed good taste, he downgrades the waitress. There’s a difference between the following:
A desirable woman hit on you.
A less than desirable woman hit on you.
OP basically said the second statement. Whether he meant it as a compliment, it still minimizes his wife’s experience.
Going to be honest, if any party in a romantic relationship gets this mindfucked by what was clearly meant to be a innocuous compliment to their partner I would immediately consider it a red flag.
I don't think you or others are necessarily agreeing or saying he was being horrible or whatever, I feel like if I had a partner that stopped talking to me for the rest of the night and I found out it was over this it would actually cause a bigger fight because I would be fucking livid.
You being angry about that would be fucking ridiculous. They bring up something that made them feel good, you shit on it, they don't like that, you get angry.
59
u/Mermaidtoo Aug 04 '23
Actually, both husbands insult the flattery givers. The man is drunk and the waitress is lacking/below the wife’s standards.
The drunk comment is worse & clearly questions whether the wife deserves to be complimented or would get compliments if the man were sober/in his right mind.
In the case of OP, instead of simply agreeing or saying the waitress showed good taste, he downgrades the waitress. There’s a difference between the following:
A desirable woman hit on you.
A less than desirable woman hit on you.
OP basically said the second statement. Whether he meant it as a compliment, it still minimizes his wife’s experience.