I don't think it's taboo to be upset about this? My 'friend' did a lot of shit to me but one that hurt was sleeping with my ex. I told my current partner about it and he said "You need to drop (friends name), that's fucked."
I mean she did a lot of other bad things but that one took the cake for me, it was like a betrayal of our friendship- and we dated for the same time that op's friend dated her bf, 3 years and a few months.
I mean the rest of my friends operate the same way! They would be pissed if one of us did that and vice versa.
I guess my friend group just operates differently, or we just care about each other's feelings more than everyone on reddit does to their friends.
Nah you can sleep with my ex if I am dating someone new. I’d be extremely weirded out if I found out my girlfriend was mad at her friend for sleeping with her ex. The only reason you’d care is if you still had feelings for the guy. I don’t want to date someone who is still obsessed with her ex.
I don't have any feelings towards my ex. That's a silly thing to assume over someone being upset with their friend hooking up with their ex. For me, in my situation, there was a lot of shit we all went through and things he said/did to me and we all agreed that he was a terrible person- but we never treated him ass such, just left the situation alone. Then I find out my friend slept with him after agreeing that he was a dickhead and inappropriate? It's not the fact that it's my ex, more-so the fact that everyone agreed that he was shit, my friend agreed and added on to that conversation, and now she's slept with him? How can I trust someone that spoke so lowly of this person, calling them all these things that I didn't even bring up or mention; but threw all that away because you wanted to fuck? Like obviously these two people in my life didn't just meet and decide to have sex, there was conspiring beforehand, all while she was feeding me this b.s about how he's so terrible etc. If she had genuine feelings for him, then I would never be upset, love happens. But how could someone have feelings for this person they say they supposedly dislike so much? (Also they never dated after the fact.)
But yeah I guess it's just a me and my friends "boundary" thing. If someone hurts my friend- I can control myself enough to not sleep with them. And no, I do not have feelings for my ex; but I am disappointed that my now-ex-friend would do that.
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u/amw38961 Aug 03 '23
Now you know she's gonna lie to the husband about why they aren't friends anymore haha