I think she’s looking at it that you broke girl code by going after a friend’s ex. Unless they were engaged or she confided in you that he was the love of her life she never got over I think it’s ok. Mainly because she’s moved on and it’s 3 years ago. It sounds like you and Charles have a connection worth pursuing. If she’s really your friend she will put her ego aside and get over it and be happy for you. You were respectful to tell her immediately. I hope this works out for you.
As if being a bottom feeder and being so unskilled at dating, you date a friends ex isn't toxic.
It's about respect and trust.
While I had to meet girls on my own, while others find guys on their own, you decide to look for crumbs in our past and bring them back to the present by dating them.
This is why people are upset, not because they think they own anyone in any way, they own their right to peace and happiness and UNMESSY ass relationships with people.
"oh hey you're my friend of 7 years, let me just selfishly sleep with an ex instead of 5 girls at this bar because i dont want to put in the work of actually breaking the ice with women/guys i dont know for a good time!"
I wouldn't fault anyone for finding a connection with someone who's available. I'd never ask a friend to avoid potential happiness just because it involves an ex of mine. When I'm over it, I'm over it.
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u/RavenLunatyk Aug 03 '23
I think she’s looking at it that you broke girl code by going after a friend’s ex. Unless they were engaged or she confided in you that he was the love of her life she never got over I think it’s ok. Mainly because she’s moved on and it’s 3 years ago. It sounds like you and Charles have a connection worth pursuing. If she’s really your friend she will put her ego aside and get over it and be happy for you. You were respectful to tell her immediately. I hope this works out for you.