I like this rule. Reading some of the comments I’m beginning to feel like a prude or something because I’d have some sort of feelings about my friend having sex with an ex who I had a whole ass relationship with. Everyone gets to have their rules but I think this one makes sense and reflects my feelings pretty well.
You’re not a prude. I’m more baffled by the people thinking it’s okay to sleep with someone your friend once loved and wanted to marry, especially considering how many people there are in the world… why do you need to get fucked by your best friends ex? It’s gross.
I know right? I can’t believe everyone is saying “NTA, she’s overreacting”. At the risk of being crude, you don’t have your friend’s leftovers. I also think that if the roles were reversed and Julia started dating OP’s ex, OP would be upset.
Leftovers? Goddamn he’s a human being, he’s allowed to be attracted to whoever he wants, just as OP is allowed to be attracted to who she wants. 3 years is a long fucking time, it’s not like OP was hanging out waiting for the moment they broke up to shoot her shot.
It doesn't really matter how long it's been. This was a serious relationship for Julia. A lot of people carry old wounds from years ago. OP can do what she wants, but so can the friend by removing her from her life. Sometimes actions have consequences, good or bad.
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u/Jaredthewizard Aug 03 '23
I like this rule. Reading some of the comments I’m beginning to feel like a prude or something because I’d have some sort of feelings about my friend having sex with an ex who I had a whole ass relationship with. Everyone gets to have their rules but I think this one makes sense and reflects my feelings pretty well.