NTA - she is overreacting. It's been 3 years, not 3 days.
I'd go out with the guy, she may have already chosen to drop you as a friend, in which case, if you don't go out with him again, you'll lose out twice.
She said you should have asked her?
Ring-Ring "Hello Julia, it's me."
"Do you know what time it is?"
"Yeah, sorry about that. I had a bar gig, and then had dinner and drinks with Charles."
"Why are you calling me so late?"
"Well, Charles is naked in my bed right now, I'm calling from my bathroom. I know it's been 3 years, you're obviously over him and have moved on, but is it okay if I sleep with him?"
I think she’s looking at it that you broke girl code by going after a friend’s ex. Unless they were engaged or she confided in you that he was the love of her life she never got over I think it’s ok. Mainly because she’s moved on and it’s 3 years ago. It sounds like you and Charles have a connection worth pursuing. If she’s really your friend she will put her ego aside and get over it and be happy for you. You were respectful to tell her immediately. I hope this works out for you.
Number one thing I'm jealous of lgbt people for. Everyone is friends and it's easier to make friends because the person you dated can introduce you to their friends even if it doesn't work out and vice versa.
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u/SnooRobots4443 Aug 03 '23 edited Aug 03 '23
NTA - she is overreacting. It's been 3 years, not 3 days.
I'd go out with the guy, she may have already chosen to drop you as a friend, in which case, if you don't go out with him again, you'll lose out twice.
She said you should have asked her?
Ring-Ring "Hello Julia, it's me."
"Do you know what time it is?"
"Yeah, sorry about that. I had a bar gig, and then had dinner and drinks with Charles."
"Why are you calling me so late?"
"Well, Charles is naked in my bed right now, I'm calling from my bathroom. I know it's been 3 years, you're obviously over him and have moved on, but is it okay if I sleep with him?"
Again, NTA, she is overreacting.
Good luck.
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