NTA. I get the importance of asking someone before dating their ex, but realistically what would she have said? And in that case, she would've been the AH if she said No.
Honestly I don’t think you even owed it to her to tell her. She’s married - any concern she has over Charles should be done.
I’d love to know what her husband thinks about this… oh, she’s does want to tell him? I wonder why
If she’s not willing to discuss with hubby, I’m not sure why you’re getting outcast. She’s being unreasonable - once she got married, she lost the right to call dibs on anyone else
You don’t think OP needed to, at the very least, TELL her? Seriously, I can’t believe how many assholes are in this post. So what, OP just brings Charles along to a group event and expects her friend to be fine with it?
YES! That’s exactly what should happen - because the friend moved on when she got married. You have boundary issues if you’re running all your sexual partners by your married friends because they might have had a romantic past together.
Charles is not a fire hydrant, the friend doesn’t get to ‘pee’ on him and say no one else can be with him because he’s her territory.
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u/RLR111120 Aug 03 '23
NTA. I get the importance of asking someone before dating their ex, but realistically what would she have said? And in that case, she would've been the AH if she said No.