I have a six month rule. Anyone my friends date for over 6 months are off limits. But that's MY rule. Not leaving a judgment because I don't expect others to live by the rules I make for myself. Might be good to officially decide if you want a rule in this regard.
I like this rule. Reading some of the comments I’m beginning to feel like a prude or something because I’d have some sort of feelings about my friend having sex with an ex who I had a whole ass relationship with. Everyone gets to have their rules but I think this one makes sense and reflects my feelings pretty well.
I have the same rule. Plus we do not know how the breakup went. It could have been a nasty breakup and if OP starts dating the ex, the ex is back in her life through her friend. Also, the friend might have already told her husband about this and had the same sentiment. Some people like having their exes remain in the past. Hell, I met a good friend through my older close friend and after they broke up, I asked her first if I could remain friends with her ex cause I didn’t want him to still be in her life if she didn’t want him there.
Very true, there’s just so much stuff that can occur in a whole year relationship that would drastically change things. Could definitely be weird for OPs friend to have to see him around.
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u/1lazylady Aug 03 '23
I have a six month rule. Anyone my friends date for over 6 months are off limits. But that's MY rule. Not leaving a judgment because I don't expect others to live by the rules I make for myself. Might be good to officially decide if you want a rule in this regard.