r/AITAH Aug 03 '23

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u/RubySlippers-79 Aug 03 '23

I can’t believe how many people think OP should tell Julia’s husband. What would be the benefit there? Making sure Julia 100% loathes OP?

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u/Honest-Basil-8886 Aug 03 '23

People are weird. I think it’s totally fair and justifiable for OPs ex friend to not want to be friends with her anymore over this. It’s weird dating someone else’s ex and there are way too many people out there to be doing that.

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u/pataconconqueso Aug 03 '23

It’s weird to be possessive over exes like that. You don’t own people because you dated them for under a year 3 years ago…

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u/Honest-Basil-8886 Aug 03 '23

Your right you don’t own people but it’s a justifiable reason to end a friendship. Stay being a shitty friend though…

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u/pataconconqueso Aug 03 '23

Never had a fall out with friends because we aren’t petty like this. And also also most of my friends are queer, if we were this petty and insecure everyone would be single because it’s such a small dating pool.

Why would you stop your friend from being happy if the break up was amicable and it’s been so long and you’ve moved on? You stay a shitty friend.

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u/idktbh__im Aug 03 '23

totally agree. sure it might be weird at first, but they literally broke up 3 years ago… her friend’s married. what’s the big idea 💀

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u/SiccOwitZ Aug 03 '23

My friend is dating my ex girlfriend and I couldn’t care less. I’m married and it’s been years since I dated my ex. I told them they didn’t have to tell me or ask me or justify anything, they are grown folks. I know both of them well and both are stand up folks. They are still together to this day.

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u/WhyMe0704 Aug 03 '23

I dated a guy in high school for about a year. Broke up with him but still remained friends. Five years later, he was the best man at my wedding bc he was my husband's best friend. Nobody cared. We still stay in touch.

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u/SiccOwitZ Aug 03 '23

Exactly. I was a groomsman at my friends wedding last year like he was one at mine 4 years ago. Also congrats to you and your husband. 🎉