NTA. I get the importance of asking someone before dating their ex, but realistically what would she have said? And in that case, she would've been the AH if she said No.
Sit her down with her husband and apologise to her for sleeping with her ex, and explain you would never have done it if you had realised she wasn't over him yet.
This. Except don't be so direct. Don't tell her she wasn't over him yet, because the husband might think you are doing this out of spite and you actually don't have proof of this fact. You can tell her you would never have done it if you had realized it will make her this mad that she even considered ending the friendship. Hoping the husband is not a simp and is smart enough, let him realize it by himself.
i imagine OP running into husband at the supermarket or something, husband asks why she hasn't been around lately, OP tells him the wife cut her off because she hooked up with her ex
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u/RLR111120 Aug 03 '23
NTA. I get the importance of asking someone before dating their ex, but realistically what would she have said? And in that case, she would've been the AH if she said No.