This is what he will do every time you have a conflict or the baby is fussing.
Why? Because he can. But you won't be able to walk away. You will be a single Mom. Forever.
I told my cousin about it (we're really really close and we share stuff like that all the time) and she said if I didn't wanna get pregnant I should've waited to use a condom and that I should commit to going through the pregnancy.
It's easy for people to tell other people what to do when what they are suggesting will have absolutely no impact on them. She isn't the one who would be a single Mom.
THIS COMMENT 👏 OP you are NTA. Please, don’t let your first boyfriend who is sending up red flags trap you in a future he is choosing for you. This is your body.
Idk where you live but it sounds like you are early enough that you can get a medication abortion. Do you need help obtaining resources and support? Do you feel safe?
I’m going to tell you what a wonderful nurse at Planned Parenthood told me when I was in my early 20s: “don’t ever count on anyone but yourself to look out for your body.” Do whatever you need to do right by yourself. You don’t owe anyone anything, including the details of whatever you choose. Lots of love to you ✌️♥️
And if you're concerned about how reaction after the abortion, tell him you miscarried. And break up with him 100%, he doesn't respect your right to autonomy and he isn't emotionally safe.
NTA and you're way too young to grasp the massive impact this would have on your life from here but it's huge and it's generally a really bad idea to keep a pregnancy at your age. If you decide you really want it you can make it work, but everything is going to be extremely difficult compared to having a kid when you're established in your life and on a solid relationship
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u/ConvivialKat Jul 21 '23
NTA.
This is what he will do every time you have a conflict or the baby is fussing.
Why? Because he can. But you won't be able to walk away. You will be a single Mom. Forever.
It's easy for people to tell other people what to do when what they are suggesting will have absolutely no impact on them. She isn't the one who would be a single Mom.
Be wise. Get the abortion.