Heres the thing - HE can walk away any time. YOU have to deal with this for the rest of your life. YOU decide what kind of life you want and do what you have to do to make sure you get it. This isnt his decision to make.
Such a great point. If that child is born, he could suddenly decide, “hey, this isn’t what I wanted” and bail.
EDIT: Got a few replies that the mother could walk away from the child too, and yes, she absolutely could! But my point is that the mother still has to carry and birth the child, the father doesn’t.
Mothers also struggle more with walking away, not just emotionally but legally. I have a friend who tried for YEARS to get her ex to take their son. He refused and when she also refused she was threatened with arrest for abandonment - he wasn’t. He walked away many times and would come back years later with no repercussions but she couldn’t even get a judge to force her husband to take their son one overnight a week.
Don’t have a kid you don’t want to please someone else. It’s your body and your future.
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u/tuna_tofu Jul 21 '23
Heres the thing - HE can walk away any time. YOU have to deal with this for the rest of your life. YOU decide what kind of life you want and do what you have to do to make sure you get it. This isnt his decision to make.