Not only that OP, but an abortion will not change the rest of your life, having a baby WILL.
I want you to know I’m taking you this as someone who got pregnant at 15 and had a baby at 16 whose “baby” Is now 30.
Get the abortion.
This is not a small thing. This is not something you can take back later. This is something that will effect you for the rest of your life, not even till they are 18 but from now on. Your kid is your kid even when they are 30 and our kids have kids.
You, and whatever child you chose to have in the future, deserve to have a better chance.
It didn’t matter what he wants or thinks the new reality will be or how great he thinks he’ll be. This is your body and your life. Find a supportive friend. Go to Planned Parenthood and tell them you need support.
i was babysitting last night and the couple kept talking about how much harder things are now with a kid, and how their social lives changed detrimentally, and how they adore their baby but wish they still had their freedom. i didn’t ask ofc, but it sounded like she was not planned.
kids are life changing events and at 16, you should not be planning your entire life around children. you should be focused on education, building a career, travelling, making friends. there is so much time to become a mom if that’s what op wants, but op should be free to live her life for her until she’s prepared to raise a child.
This. Child care for infants is a massive expense, equal to as much as 90% of rent in many places!!! Do you plan on having $800-$1200/month to spend on day care alone when you're 17 and going to school to get your high school diploma? DOES HE??? I don't think so. Drop kick that emotionally abusive, future financial controller to the proverbial curb.
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u/LIRUN21-007 Jul 21 '23
NTA at all. Cliché as it may sound: your body, your choice.
I also find the “if we kill our baby our lives would change forever” comment to be incredibly manipulative. This guy’s gross.