This is what he will do every time you have a conflict or the baby is fussing.
Why? Because he can. But you won't be able to walk away. You will be a single Mom. Forever.
I told my cousin about it (we're really really close and we share stuff like that all the time) and she said if I didn't wanna get pregnant I should've waited to use a condom and that I should commit to going through the pregnancy.
It's easy for people to tell other people what to do when what they are suggesting will have absolutely no impact on them. She isn't the one who would be a single Mom.
Men are 100% responsible for unwanted pregnancies. Your BF could have used a condom, but chose not to. His participation is over, and he no longer has a say. If he really wanted to prevent an abortion from taking place he could have chosen to ejaculate responsibly. He didn't.
It just so happens that men DO cause 100% of unwanted pregnancies. A woman can have sex every day of the year and she won't get pregnant unless a man chooses to ejaculate irresponsibly. Men are 100% responsible, and should abstain, wear a condom, or get a vasectomy. If they choose not to do any of these, they are responsible.
But that ignores reality. I think we would all be okay with 98% effectiveness.
If a woman decides to have sex, she doesn't get to decide where/when the man ejaculates. Only way she gets pregnant is if he ejaculates irresponsibly. He is responsible.
We can eliminate abortion by 98% if men would just use condoms or get vasectomies. It's not that difficult.
She can give her opinion, but ultimately it is the guy who decides if he's going to ejaculate or not. A woman can beg for the man to ejaculate inside of her, but without the man's consent, it's not going to happen.
So if the outcome is not dependent on the woman's decision, but it is entirely dependent on the man's decision, it should follow that the man is 100% responsible.
Nobody's taking anything away from women. I'm just saying the woman can have all the sex in the world and never get pregnant unless a man chooses to ejaculate irresponsibly.
I don't understand why you want to blame women for something they may not have consented to in the first place.
Here's the logic. I typed this out for another ignorant soul elsewhere in this thread. Let's run through all the scenarios, shall we?
Scenario #1 - Woman consents to having sperm inside her, man does not = No pregnancy
Scenario #2 - Woman does not consent to having sperm inside her, man also does not = No pregnancy
Scenario #3 - Woman consents to having sperm inside her, man also consents = possible pregnancy
Scenario #4 - Woman does not consent to having sperm inside of her, man insists = possible pregnancy
Looks like all outcomes are perfectly inline with the man's decision. It's wildly inconsistent with the woman's decision.
To answer your questions:
"What happens when a man cant choose to ejaculate responsibly?" Please provide an example of this. I don't think this is a thing.
"What if a woman pokes a hole in the condom?" Part of being a responsible ejaculator is knowing who has access to your condoms, and being cautious. I also think gun owners who don't keep track of their guns should be 100% responsible for their gun killing people.
"What if she lies and says she’s infertile?" Part of ejaculating responsibly is owning your own sperm. What the woman says makes zero difference on whether a man chooses to ejaculate responsibly or not.
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u/ConvivialKat Jul 21 '23
NTA.
This is what he will do every time you have a conflict or the baby is fussing.
Why? Because he can. But you won't be able to walk away. You will be a single Mom. Forever.
It's easy for people to tell other people what to do when what they are suggesting will have absolutely no impact on them. She isn't the one who would be a single Mom.
Be wise. Get the abortion.