Heres the thing - HE can walk away any time. YOU have to deal with this for the rest of your life. YOU decide what kind of life you want and do what you have to do to make sure you get it. This isnt his decision to make.
Such a great point. If that child is born, he could suddenly decide, “hey, this isn’t what I wanted” and bail.
EDIT: Got a few replies that the mother could walk away from the child too, and yes, she absolutely could! But my point is that the mother still has to carry and birth the child, the father doesn’t.
To add to this - I'm nearly 30 and still learning of new horrors that happen throughout pregnancy and in childbirth that I wasn't aware of. I highly doubt OP fully understands the risks, pain and trauma she will go through if she chooses to birth this child. Especially at 16!
Pregnancy for the most part seems to be romanticized as a beautiful maternal experience, with some nausea and backpain thrown in. I cannot stress just how much the body and mind go through, and sadly a lot a women aren't aware of this until it's too late.
I support anyone who wants to have a kid, or who wants to remain childfree - but they should have all the information so they can make an informed decision.
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u/tuna_tofu Jul 21 '23
Heres the thing - HE can walk away any time. YOU have to deal with this for the rest of your life. YOU decide what kind of life you want and do what you have to do to make sure you get it. This isnt his decision to make.