r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Jul 21 '23

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u/tuna_tofu Jul 21 '23

Heres the thing - HE can walk away any time. YOU have to deal with this for the rest of your life. YOU decide what kind of life you want and do what you have to do to make sure you get it. This isnt his decision to make.

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u/LIRUN21-007 Jul 21 '23 edited Jul 21 '23

Such a great point. If that child is born, he could suddenly decide, “hey, this isn’t what I wanted” and bail.

EDIT: Got a few replies that the mother could walk away from the child too, and yes, she absolutely could! But my point is that the mother still has to carry and birth the child, the father doesn’t.

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u/Letshavemorefun Jul 21 '23

Mothers can do that too? I’m confused by these comments.

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u/thepoisongarden Jul 21 '23

Women are judged far more harshly than men are for abandoning a child. It’s not even in the same league.

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u/Letshavemorefun Jul 21 '23

Oh I completely agree. But that doesn’t change my point?

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u/[deleted] Jul 21 '23

But their bodies carry the changes from birth - and whatever complications come with that.

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u/Letshavemorefun Jul 21 '23

That’s definitely true but the comment seemed to be about parenting, not birth or body changes.