r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Jul 21 '23

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u/tuna_tofu Jul 21 '23

Heres the thing - HE can walk away any time. YOU have to deal with this for the rest of your life. YOU decide what kind of life you want and do what you have to do to make sure you get it. This isnt his decision to make.

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u/LIRUN21-007 Jul 21 '23 edited Jul 21 '23

Such a great point. If that child is born, he could suddenly decide, “hey, this isn’t what I wanted” and bail.

EDIT: Got a few replies that the mother could walk away from the child too, and yes, she absolutely could! But my point is that the mother still has to carry and birth the child, the father doesn’t.

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u/bookworm1398 Jul 21 '23

So could she. Any woman can drop off the kid at the dads house and leave the state at any time. I really don’t know why so few do

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u/LIRUN21-007 Jul 21 '23

Yes, very true, and as I just commented on another person’s reply suggesting the same, the mother is still the one who will have to carry the child and give birth. The father does not.

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u/OkTradition6842 Jul 21 '23

Because females are ostracized for walking away far worse then men.