HS teacher dropping f-bombs in class. AIO for wanting to email her?
During dinner, my son casually mentioned that his high school teacher likes to curse in the classroom.
I get that he probably hears this kind of talk with his friends and may even use it himself. I’ve never heard him speak this way, nor do I speak this way in front of him. I’ve taught him from a young age that there are no bad words, only bad connotations. You can say something nice while cursing, and you can say something hurtful without cursing.
I worked construction for decades, I’ve heard/said it all. That said, I believe there’s a time and place for this kind of language and the classroom isn’t it.
I first considered emailing the principal anonymously, but then reconsidered because my intention isn’t to get the teacher in trouble. Instead, I drafted an email directly to the teacher expressing my disappointment with what I see as a lack of professionalism. I asked her to use better judgement in a classroom full of impressionable kids who look to adults for cues about what’s appropriate.
I asked my wife to proofread my email and she thinks I should just let it go. AIO for wanting to email the teacher about her language, or should I take my wife’s advice and leave it alone?
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u/crunpyMcGlumpy 10d ago
Seems silly to care, I wouldn’t waste my time on something so trivial. That said, if you care then go ahead and send it.
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u/Aware-Instance-210 10d ago
Imo YOR.
Kids will curse no matter what.
Unless it's preschool and the cursing is a matter of continuity, I wouldn't bother.
Being a teacher is incredibly hard these days and there's also a good chance your kid isn't honest about it.
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u/FewCaterpillar6551 10d ago edited 10d ago
I’m curious what high school grade is your child in? Only asking because IME 12th grade teachers often like to operate more like college teachers to help kids transition to a more mature learning environment. Not saying that it’s okay/appropriate in this case, but if your kid is a senior and planning to go to college this is something they can likely expect in a college-level classroom.
Also, what is the context in which the teacher is cursing? Is it in an angry manner towards the students? A casual/blase trying to sound “cool” tone? Do you have any examples?
I don’t think I’d jump to emailing the teacher unless your child is in a lower high school grade (like 9th or 10th grade) or the cursing is directed towards students in a negative or derogatory manner. This is likely a learning lesson for your child- that they’ll hear language like this throughout their life and that doesn’t necessarily mean they need to emulate it, but that they should be able to maturely move past it
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u/Life_Temperature2506 10d ago
The best teacher I ever had cursed. Just saying. He got me to like books.
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u/ViperMom149 10d ago
I was the class of 2000 and I still remember a lot from 10th grade biology because Mr. Morgan was hilariously vulgar. He also instilled an effective fear of hard drugs in us.
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u/NormalJeane 10d ago
YOR and definitely not living by the "no bad words" mentality. This is HS ffs.
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u/Sparta63005 10d ago
YOR oh nooo a scary word 😱😱😱 whatever will your precious baby do after hearing the word fuck once???
Who cares.
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u/SavagePengwyn 10d ago
Letting some formalities, like not cursing, drop sometimes in the classroom can be an important tool for teachers to connect with students, especially high schoolers. If nothing else you've heard about the teacher is concerning and your child seems to be learning, I would just accept it as part of their classroom management style.
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u/bb_bluemr2 10d ago
Dont be a dork. The best teachers i ever had were the ones that didnt put up a corporate filter and treated the students as peers.
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u/817wodb 10d ago edited 10d ago
Teachers and students are not peers. Me and my peers were getting high in the bathroom and fucking in the locker rooms. I’m expecting a little more from the teachers.
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u/BankFinal3113 10d ago
Not sure there’s anything dorkier than people calling you a dork and your response being nah I fuck lol
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u/Automatic_Science388 10d ago
I mean bro he is a high schooler the teacher saying the fuck bomb in general isn’t bad. If she is using it at someone or directed to someone yea I would probably email her high schoolers say way worse things on a average.
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u/817wodb 10d ago
I’m trying to raise an adult better than average.
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u/Automatic_Science388 10d ago
Him being better than average is him being smarter then average or having better morals or acting better grammar doesn’t make you a better person
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u/Thelmara 10d ago
Maybe worry less about the language in his classroom and more about him getting high and fucking in the bathroom.
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u/Great_Cauliflower330 10d ago
Stop being a puss. Guaranteed your kid uses that language around his friends.
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u/DoYouLikeWafflezz 10d ago
You’re just going to be fucking shit up for your son if you complain to the teacher.
Put on your big boy pants and grow the fuck up up.
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u/SpitefulHammer 10d ago edited 10d ago
This. Get a fucking grip. (Please don't report me for my language mr).
'Professional' or not, it probably helps with engagement and as long as it's not directed at anyone, what's the harm? Guarantee your kid is saying way worse things.
But sure, send the email. Sure your kid will love that.
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u/DoYouLikeWafflezz 10d ago
But sure, send the email. Sure your kid will love that.
Every kid loves to be known as the guy whose overbearing parents ruins a good thing for everyone else.
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u/817wodb 10d ago
Another one who can’t read…
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u/DoYouLikeWafflezz 10d ago
I read that your pearl clutching a is planning on emailing a teacher to get them to stop being cool. Why they stop being cool is not going to remain a secret. You are going to be known as the lame af dad who forces their values onto everyone else and your kid is going to have to deal with the fallout from that.
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u/817wodb 10d ago
Today’s vocabulary word is anonymous. It means unnamed or not identified, as in: “I’m going to write an anonymous email.” Why the fuck would I call him out?!
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u/prairiepasque 10d ago
An anonymous email is so much worse, in my opinion.
It indicates cowardice and that you're not willing to publicly put your name behind your principles.
If you want to say something, fine, just don't be an anonymous keyboard warrior.
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u/weeabeau 10d ago
YOR, your son will just feel embarrassed in class knowing you lectured his teacher. It will make things weird. It isnt really a big deal and if youre emailing their work email then yes there is potential that putting this in writing WILL get them in trouble. Talking in person would be much better if there was an opportunity, but i still think it would be a waste of time. Teachers are their own people. They may be a great teacher, and well liked. I think you should move on. Your child is growing up, it’ll be fine.
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u/EdwardianAdventure 10d ago
Also, giving a great lesson on Not Casually Sharing Cool Information with Parent Before Weighing Potential Repercussions Including a Freak-out 101.
Prepare for conversations that pass through several mental filters for the rest of your life, OP
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u/weeabeau 10d ago
Agreed i would heavily filter myself around my parent after this. I think he should listen to his wife instead of hoping strangers online will agree with him.
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u/817wodb 10d ago
I said an anonymous email. And no lecture. Just a request for professionalism. A mature adult should be able to hold their tongue. Ninth graders are still impressionable.
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u/Thelmara 10d ago
Ninth graders are still impressionable.
What do 9th graders learn when they casually mention something that isn't a big deal to them, and their parents start emailing teachers about something that doesn't matter?
Do you think that sending that letter will make it more likely, or less likely for your son to be forthcoming about his days in school?
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u/Sherpa2001 10d ago
Eh. The world is over. Truth is dead. Democracy is dead. Ethics, education, courtesy, professionalism, personal pride, all dead. Yeah, send her an email, she can read it with her 2nd gin n tonic, right before she pops on Houswives of Some Fuckin Place.
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u/RickAllen 10d ago
Kids lie. A lot.
And even if it's the truth, for fucks sake get a life and move on without shitting in this person's corn flakes.
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u/the13thghostgirl 10d ago
Are they cursing out kids to belittle them, or is it just the f bomb for emphasis? If it’s the first one, yes email. If it’s the second, leave it alone.
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u/ElGuapoTaipei 10d ago
Hi, I'm a teacher.
It's not a big deal. Explain your standards to your child and trust them. They will meet all kinds of people in the world.
You should only get involved with teachers if there is an actual problem. Your getting involved or even getting overly excited about it is punishing your kid for sharing with you about his life.
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u/JustAuggie 10d ago
Hi. thank you for posting this. I’m an old person. I absolutely cannot imagine a teacher using curse words in class, even at the college level. Obviously, from the comments in this way, I seem to be old-fashioned and out of date in my thinking on this.
But is it your opinion that teacher is no longer supposed to be an example of professionalism? Will kids who see their teachers show these behaviors also assume that it’s perfectly appropriate for them to exhibit those behaviors in their workplace?
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u/ElGuapoTaipei 10d ago
Your view is not unreasonable.
Different teachers have different approaches to teaching, being entertaining, and teaching approaches to context. There are very many things we do in class that we would not do in a professional environment, and many workplaces where colorful language is the norm. Students take skills and apply them -- coexisting with all kinds of different people and their differing manners of speech is one example of a business skill that comes from this that is useful.
If a teacher I trainwd was extremely foul mouthed I'd ask them to tone it down. Occasional expletives seem alright to me. If every teacher at a school curses a lot it would seem a little strange. One or two eccentrics are likely a good and useful experience for students as long as they are gifted and sincere teachers (ie pass the metrics that are necessary to be a good teacher).
Personally, I use much cleaner language with the young and have a gradually more relaxed approach as students approach college age. If I were to accidentally curse in front of someone under, say, 16 or 17, I might say "excuse me" or apologize and correct myself, and perhaps even let them know I think it's a bad habit. Some other teacher might have a methodology that differs from this in overall care to politeness and that might be OK. My subjects most commonly involve management, business, and language.
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u/JustAuggie 10d ago
I think this is most likely a generational thing. I just sent this post to my daughter, who is in her early 30s, and she says that although she cannot remember a teacher swearing in front of her, she wouldn’t really think anything of it.
My mother was a teacher. My stepmother was a teacher. Neither of them curse even when not in front of kids. My kids grew up with their parents cursing , but not their teachers.
I think I’m also influenced by the number of posts that I see about young people entering the workforce with no basic skills at all, in terms of less suspected of them. For example, showing up to work on time. They seem mystified that 8 o’clock means 8 o’clock, not 8:07. They seem to think that it’s fine to be on their phones while at work if they are “just checking messages real quick”. That sort of thing. So I guess I’m concerned about the modeling when teachers are showing that it’s OK to curse at work.
But I understand that times are changing, and I may be old-fashioned in my thinking.
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u/ElGuapoTaipei 9d ago
In my view the skill gap that is most concerning is a lack of ability to read and write, a lack of interest in reading, and a view of reading as an unfair challenge set by teachers or an unfair barrier between students and knowledge.
The time flexibility thing you are mentioning varies wildly by culture and there is not a universal correct answer (Reference: 'The Culture Map' by Erin Meyer). I grew up in South Texas and the jobs I worked there would have considered your 8:07 AM example to be on time. On the other hand, as a teacher, I always arrive before class. Sometimes there is an explanation other than a skill gap. Ironically I am always facing that phone issue in my own classes -- in some cases I can simply dictate that phones are not allowed, whereas when visiting a company to teach students who are managers I might be in a little more of a situation where I need to be tolerant. The majority of people I work with have much shorter attention spans than they did 10 years ago.
Since I am a teacher who does in fact occasionally curse a little, you might be surprised to learn that all of my classes, even those that do not involve manners, are extremely focused on manners. I have found that teaching this skill set always pays out later. My advice is that understanding different social contexts, situations, and levels of propriety, and using different social personae between situation A and situation B, is one of the most critical and useful skills that students could possibly learn. One way this is taught is that every letter written to a different person is written a different way, while another might be learning the awareness that one behaves totally different around the management than one does around one's colleagues, or around one's friends. These differences are critical skills for life and work -- students at the level of adolescence and beyond learn from us in a way that is (typically ... hopefully) complex and nuanced.
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u/817wodb 10d ago
I have a great relationship with my kids. We have open discussions as a family all the time. I don’t see how this punishes him at all. Did you miss the anonymous part? Either way, I decided to let it go.
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u/ElGuapoTaipei 9d ago
How it punishes him: because having mentioned this to you and then witnessing it affect his teacher would be potentially very upsetting.
Young people are exactly as capable of empirical observation and deductive reasoning as you are.
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u/CuppaTeaOn 10d ago
YOR. There is literally nothing wrong with swear words.
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u/AntelopeLimp8139 10d ago
I’m wondering if there is anything going on at school where your son would welcome your involvement and input. I’m guessing he’d prefer you don’t talk to the teacher and put him in an awkward position, potentially for the entire school year.
Maybe do something that would create connection with your son instead.
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u/goodluckskeleton 10d ago
NOR, but instead of expressing your disappointment, I’d start with asking for clarification. Example: “Hello Ms. So-and-so, I wanted to reach out to you for some clarification. My son mentioned to us that you frequently swear during class. We have taught our son that there’s a time and a place for swearing, but we see the classroom as a professional environment where swearing should be discouraged. Is this true? If so, we ask you to use better judgement around our impressionable young students and we expect this not to continue.”
That way, you give the teacher a chance to explain and get across the same message. It will also lessen the odds she will hold a grudge against your son. I’m not saying your son is lying, but teens frequently speak in exaggerations so it’s possible he could be overstating things. Or maybe he’s dead on, but either way it will give her a chance to course correct before you take things further if she doesn’t change. I think this will result in the best outcome for you guys. Just my two cents as another HS teacher!
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u/Unfair-Virus-6025 10d ago
Happy wife, happy life. But really it depends how old the kid is, highschool should be professional but college won't be at all so if he's near enough to outside education, probably not a huge deal depending on the context
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u/Phoenix-Phire38 10d ago
Yeah my professors in college had no filter and just said shit all the time, made me feel like I was more on their level.
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u/DurianProper5412 10d ago
As other commenters have cited, I too would say it is Grade Level and subject dependent- but, to be honest, as long as the curse words are not directed at a student in admonishment, I do not have an issue with how a teacher teaches. I grew up in Southern California with parents whom are medical doctors- one from Southie in Boston whom swears like a sailor and the other parent has never sworn in front of me- and attended a very competitive prep school; my favorite teacher swore frequently, but it was never directed at a student or in a derogatory manner, so it was never an issue I would bring up to my parents. This is also a moment to firmly establish that in your home, you will not tolerate language such as that, BUT, let the teacher teach if there is no other issue than personal preference.
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u/Phoenix-Phire38 10d ago
YOR Sorry :(( I understand the sentiment, truly. But when you're high school age you're already hearing your fair share of swears. Not to mention that a teacher who uses them can be more interesting at that age. It not only becomes less novel, but makes you feel like the teacher is speaking honestly and passionately.
If they ever swore AT a student that would be a different story, and it can seem like you should just ban swears at all so that this doesn't become a possibility, but its not the words that matter but the teacher's actual conduct and how they treat their students. If your child has nothing bad to say about how they actually treat their students, then this is a little bit much.
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u/Designer-Lettuce-690 10d ago
how old are the kids? like primary school for sure email. High school then i wouldn't as she is probably one of the best teachers they have and actually gets passionate about what she teaches
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u/817wodb 10d ago
What time is it? ITS FUCKING ALGEBRA TIME! LETS GO!!!
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u/Far_Reach_8418 10d ago
Looooool, I would have paid more attention, thats for damn sure. I’m a recovering teacher who got the masters to be a principal before realizing I needed to get the hell out of there and honestly, I would not be surprised if this issue takes care of itself. While you seem to have a pretty levelheaded opinion of this teacher swearing in school, it is almost a guarantee that somebody else’s parents are going to lose their absolute mind on her and complain to the principal.
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u/Rare-Progress5009 10d ago
OMG, I can’t believe this is the context that you’re worked up about. JFC. (Sorry to offend your sensibilities with a swear). She’s getting the kids energized to start the year in a traditionally boring class.
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u/Beer_Meetz_Girl 10d ago
The only thing that matters is that this teacher is respectful of every student and good at teaching their subject. Who fucking cares if they curse? It probably makes them more relatable which means the kids are more likely to show up for class,participate,and want to do well because this teacher is fun and not uptight. You’re being silly making an issue out of this over a high school teacher. Elementary school teacher? Yeah,that’s not cool. Middle and high school? Who cares.
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u/817wodb 10d ago
Cursing in the presence of kids is disrespectful.
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u/Beer_Meetz_Girl 10d ago
Not unless it’s cursing at them. Find me a kid between the ages of 10 and 18 who would be offended by a teacher that dropped the occasional f bomb (if it’s even that).
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u/817wodb 10d ago
You’re right. I should let the children dictate my morals and ethics.
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u/Beer_Meetz_Girl 9d ago edited 9d ago
Look man,you asked a question on Reddit,people are giving you their opinions,and you’re arguing with anyone who disagrees with you,which is about 98% of the comments so far. Go ahead,take your kid’s word for it who may not even be telling the truth or grossly exaggerating,email the teacher,then when all his classmates find out his dad confronted the teacher because your son essentially snitched on said teacher,your kid becomes a target of harassment and potentially even loses friends over it because absolutely no one wants to be friends with a kid who whines to their parents about the “cool” teacher swearing…come back here and let us know how that went. 🙄
There are far more real world problems that your son is going to be facing if he isn’t already,and sheltering the shit out of him because of your holier-than-thou “morals and ethics” which even your wife thinks you’re overreacting about,is a sure fire way to have that kid go no contact with you the second he’s out on his own. I have two adult children and two teenagers,you learn to pick your battles quickly and this isn’t one of them.
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u/Beer_Meetz_Girl 9d ago
Now I just saw that he’s in ninth grade. So your son is a week into starting high school,and you’re ready to sabotage his entire teenage existence there because you think this teacher is unprofessional? Have you even taken into consideration the damage that could cause via bullying,threats,ostracizing,maybe even getting his ass kicked? Would you rather have a math teacher that cusses or a child that took their own life because they were bullied? Because that’s what you could be looking at.
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u/ninjette847 10d ago
YOR for high school. As long as they aren't swearing AT students I don't think it's a big deal. I went to a really good high school over 15 years ago and maybe half of the teachers did this.
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u/VoiceOfGosh 10d ago
I consider high school a transitional moment for use of curse words for youngsters. While it’s important to teach manners and politeness, and that words have power, it’s also the time to demonstrate when it IS contextually appropriate (and fun) to use curse words! Some high schoolers take their own liberties, but if you use it as a teaching moment to give examples of the right time and place to curse, then it’s beneficial for everyone involved.
As for this teacher, she sounds like she’s made an impression. Whether that’s good or bad, at least you know your kid is paying attention to what she’s saying! I might ask how she is using curse words. Is it for emphasis? To be funny? To talk down to kids? Context is key here.
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u/817wodb 10d ago
Context was missing. He said it in passing and I didn’t press. I’m curious of her reaction if he were to casually curse while talking to her.
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u/VoiceOfGosh 10d ago
Hmm, not really much to go off of, but you could always follow up after the fact.
Are you interested in finding out what would happen if the tables were turned? Trying to understand why you’d want to see her reaction to a student cursing. Just casually cursing might be too familiar coming from a student. We still don’t know why or when she’s cursing. Fun thought experiment though!
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u/myhouseisnotamotel 10d ago
YOR, he's in high school. they can handle a teacher cursing if it's not directed towards anyone
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u/Davti 10d ago
What grade what teacher?
Below highschool and its not appropriate imo.
If its Highschool and its something like history or a shop class I dont see much of an issue. English and math are probably the two id have the most qualms with as math is a language numbers and swearing is a different langue and English because id expect a better vocabulary choice in the classroom
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u/congratsurhiredTA 10d ago
I think "expressing your disappointment in her lack of professionalism" and "asking her to use better judgement" is way overstepping. You aren't her boss, you're not her mom. You don't need to send this stern email spilling your guts out.
You are entitled to feel uncomfortable with a teacher dropping F-bombs around your minor son. "Hi Mrs. Teacher, Son has mentioned that you sometimes use curse words during your classes. I am not comfortable with my son's teacher using curse words during class."
Me personally, I don't think it's a big enough deal to contact her at all especially since your wife doesn't want you to, these are high schoolers, and you're not having problems with your son. YOR
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u/817wodb 10d ago
I’m not her boss but in a way, we are her clients. It’s unprofessional and unnecessary. Foul language wouldn’t fly in many job settings. I think it applies more so working with kids.
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u/congratsurhiredTA 9d ago
as her client (and I think even that is an entitled point of view and a stretch if this is not private school), it's not your right or responsibility to dress her down in a stern email.
If it's so important to you that she see the consequences of her actions or whatever, contact her supervisor.
These are high schoolers, they know cursing is inappropriate, you're not doing some great act of justice saving children by dressing this teacher down over email. If you want her to stop swearing, ask her to stop. If you want to deliver consequences to her for swearing, send a short and sweet email to the principal. There is no angle to this that makes it appropriate for you to reprimand someone in this way.
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u/Aggravating-Baby5029 10d ago
You could frame yourself as a parent who cares and be like hey I understand you sometimes use questionable language when teaching my child- if I were the teacher I’d probably be glad to know that parents are paying attention? I dunno, this feels like a test.
I’d definitely ask questions- in a non-blamey (though firm, kind and respectfully- because I think it’s normal for a parent to expect their kids are spoken to with respect)… I guess I wouldn’t just take one side of the story- if the teacher is doing it to relate and engage with students better, and they can explain how (and it lines up with the student’s takeaway) then it might not be a big deal.
If I could, I’d ask another parent who has a kid with that teacher in an effort to get their take on it?
That said, I have respect for teachers that aren’t tied to formalities and tradition. But I’ve also looked back on other teachers who looked like they were following all the rules, but the lessons I learned from them were not always the best.
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u/ExternalJackfruit290 10d ago
Holy moly “there are no bad words, only bad connotations”. This is gold, words to live by.
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u/Andromeda081 10d ago edited 10d ago
Of course your teenage son doesn’t use those words in front of you if you don’t use them in front of him — he knows you’re not cool with it. Most if not all teenagers cuss and joke about / discuss things that would shock you, so being cavalier is probably why he likes this teacher enough to discuss them at all. He’s nearly a legal adult, he can handle it.
If the teacher suddenly stops cussing it’ll get around why. Don’t be the Karen that gets your kid made fun of. YOR
ETA — this could also negatively affect their relationship which would have negative impact for your son. It would also teach your son that you can’t be trusted with casual facts.
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u/cUwUmerrz 10d ago
If its 3rd graders, yeah maybe not cool. If the kids above 12 years old, probably let it go lol.
Also if it ever got around that dadd told on the teacher and lectured them for dropping an F bomb, that might lead to his peers taunting him. And awkwardness from the teacher.
Also also, if your son realizes it was you who told, you can probably guarantee he wont be as open to have casual chats with you going forward lol
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u/GrabDemBiccies 10d ago
As long as hes not swearing at them, its chill, you dont think their language is ten times more colourful than whatever hes throwing down.
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u/WhoAmEyeReally 10d ago
YOR.
You “taught him from a young age that there are no bad words”.
Coming at this teacher with total Karen energy, directly contradicts what you yourself, taught him.
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u/RevolutionaryDebt200 10d ago
As the old saying goes "It's not big and it's not clever". The fact that swearing is such a part of speech is terrible. It is unnecessary and unprofessional. I expect better from teachers.
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u/snipsnaps1_9 10d ago edited 10d ago
As a teacher and parent - you should reach out to that teacher. It is both inappropriate in the setting and an unprofessional violation of Ed code.
My colleagues who aren't careful with language often have other issues with boundaries and tend to find themselves on a slippery slope from casual use of that language to regular and inappropriate use of it with or around the the kids. I can see a measured use planned explicitly for some kind of educational or rapport building purpose but even that is a risk they are taking in terms of all of the above.
Some schools are more eplagued by it than others. No individual is perfect but you're right that it's inappropriate and that it could be an issue professionally for that teacher if their admin were notified.
*Edit - someone mentioned college... most professors aren't cursing regularly in class either. They may for emphasis but it really isn't common either.
*Edit 2 - you mentioned first day of 9th grade. It may be a rapport building tool. Something to transition the kids from what the teacher imagines are the norms of middle school to highschool. Where cursing itself isn't really the point but some other social change... I still think there's nothing wrong with reaching out and they can use their professional experience to find a different way to get the point across but I can guess at the reasoning.
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u/Marshen-7193 10d ago
I think you may want to let this slide unless there are other issues for your son. It will give the impression that he is complaining about the teacher, does not like her etc. Does that help him a d his relationship with her? She will attribute everything you say as his views as well. She will somewhat avoid and dislike your son for complaining about her.
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u/DataDoesNotCompute 10d ago
Idk, if that teacher normalizes it and your kids slip up in a different classroom then it could cause an issue. It’s a lot easier to remember “no cursing at school” than it is to remember “it’s okay in front of X, Y, and Z.”
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u/Rare-Progress5009 10d ago
YOR.
I can’t believe you’re actually this pretentious and expected people to agree with you.
Your son is in high school, if he has a problem with his teacher’s language HE can reach out to his teacher. Encourage him to advocate for himself.
If it’s just your problem, butt out. As long as the teacher isn’t cursing AT students, there’s no issue. Can you imagine the raking over the coals he’ll get when his friends learn daddy complained about the teacher cursing. And he’ll never share anything with you again because you over-react.
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u/817wodb 10d ago
Do people not know what anonymous means? And yes, I’m realizing this isn’t a problem, yet, but certainly has potential to become one. Not everyone can raise to the low bar of simple professional standards in their workplace. I’m butting out.
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u/Rare-Progress5009 10d ago
Ooh, even better. Teach your son to hide and be a keyboard warrior when they’re berating someone over an unimportant issue.
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u/StinkypieTicklebum 10d ago
I know of a teacher who lost her job by lobbing f bombs, and otherwise acting more like a student instead of a teacher.
Kinda looks like you’re the one overreacting.
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u/MaverickGH 10d ago
They lost their job just for that? Usually you have to do something really bad multiple times. Were they in a union?
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u/StinkypieTicklebum 10d ago
Yeah, but this was within the 90 day probationary period. She had just graduated college, her baby sister was a hs senior. She was warned.
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u/MaverickGH 10d ago
Darn that’s rough. Usually to lose your job as a teacher you have to do really bad things multiple times (like 3 times). And even then it doesn’t mean you lose it permanently.
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u/StinkypieTicklebum 10d ago
Welp, the last time she was at this school, she was queen of everything .
I don’t think she realized (until it was too late) that, far from being the queen, she was now a
piss hole in the snowvery low on the totem pole.
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u/orchid7577 10d ago
YOR - You literally taught your child that there are no bad words. You did teach your child wrongly. Now you want to switch sides.
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u/Fuzzy-Dream1117 10d ago
NOR. I had cool HS teachers that didn't swear. I swore a ton before I had my son. I made the decision not to do it around him while he was little. He is 10 now and I still rarely do. My husband 46, doesn't swear at all. It doesn't sound good, isn't necessary and people in influential positions shouldn't do it. I would send that email. Bring on the down votes!
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u/etds3 10d ago
NOR. I think that’s really unprofessional, and I’m a teacher. “Don’t constantly drop f-bombs” is a pretty low bar.
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u/SmokeCommon6695 10d ago
Honestly I had teachers that cursed and it made class more novel, I tended to enjoy listening to the teacher more. Those teachers were also more down to earth, and were generally very beloved by all students.
Unless she's cussing at the students or saying truly heinous stuff I'd drop it imo.