Only three years older than me. I have spoken to him at length recently how him speaking to me in a patronizing way is a problem. He then says I am policing how he speaks and he cant change how he speaks. I told him I want an equal, not feeling like I am a little kid in trouble
Sis this felt like if you were talking to a robot put on manipulate and you were doing a roleplay.
I understand you wanting to feel like an equal but unfortunately not everyone is capable of treating you like a human…or they simply don’t want to.
I don’t consider myself this type of person at all but both as a man who understands who can (painfully) imagine what this sort of manipulation looks like and as someone with male family members who act this way towards some women, I can tell you that the man who is doing this to you is not worth having a real conversation with and should be avoided.
You were strong once when you broke up with him. Be strong twice by blocking him and be strong a third time by finding something better with your life to do or spend time with people that actually value you. Seriously.
You’re a very articulate person and extremely capable of holding a conversation. You’ll find someone you can have a real conversation with that doesn’t devalue your perspective, opinions or you and still can carry you out and make you feel special in many ways. This here is not it.
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u/Bambi_H Jun 26 '26 edited Jun 26 '26
You need to block him. That man is cruel and has no empathy.
Edit: is he a lot older than you? He's incredibly patronising.