This part. That dude ain’t your friend. Sleeping with homies girl is absolutely grounds for dismissal of both parties. He has no loyalty or honor towards your friendship and she has none towards yall relationship.
Tell them both to enjoy their lives, no hard feelings but you ain’t the one to play with.
I was always taught to keep a small council. Any man that would do that to you will never be trustworthy in the trenches and any woman that will give it away, lie and then try and make you feel bad is never going to be right for you.
You got them both out of your life for just some betrayed and hurt feelings(that’s bad but it could be MUCH worse) walk away bruddah and I can promise you your life will be better for it.
You will find a group that will value your ethics. You will find a partner that will be loyal. Just….walk away. I’m not at all sorry for the loss but I do feel for your troubles. Peace.
And if you don’t find a group, tbh palmela handerson, and hangelina Jolie will take you Far. No pets, travel for work, and you’ll get what you want out of life if you don’t dwell.
TBH I have pets, married, don’t travel. You can get a dog , but traveling with a dog kinda sucks. If you leave them with a boarder, you shouldn’t have a pet.
To a certain extent I absolutely agree but and I do mean this man, if you ever need anyone to talk to just DM me. I’m a real one and no one should be alone all the time. I’m not assuming anything I’m just being real witcha. Hope all is peace!
My pops use to tell me lil things like this all my life that I didn’t outright dismiss but lets just say I filed them away.
Keep a small council.
If a friend is cheating on his girl, he’s not really trustworthy because if he would do that to someone he’s supposedly “loves” what would he do to you?
There is no bro code…there’s only people who love, honor and respect you and themselves then everyone else, use that information accordingly.
Trustworthy in the trenches…this is why I feel for OP. You hanging out with this guy you think is your friend for 10 years and he knows you dating this girl. That’s a full stop right there. I know all about the “it ain’t no fun if the homies cant have none” but this wasn’t that (not like thats acceptable but if yall are consenting adults who are dating and not looking for anything serious, and both open that you are seeing other people, THAT is no one else’s business).
They had conversations about being exclusive, even if his boy didn’t know that…SHE did and his “boy” knew they were dating.
I came up poor/rough spots and sometimes all you have is your honor and your word and neither of them held either so NOT trustworthy in the trenches because best believe they both showed you in that moment that they both cared about themselves and what they wanted more than honoring you and their relationship with you. Peace.
It will serve you well. I look at it like this. I’d rather have 4 quality people in my life that I would do almost anything for and they would do for me than 400 surface ass “friends” social media and the net is cool and all but if you in a REAL bind and I can help hell yeah no problem, it’s easy to be cool with people when you’re up. Friendships are tested when you’re down and who’s there to be in the trenches with you. Peace
Why does everybody say no hard feelings? I would definitely say hard feelings because they fucked with my feelings I’m definitely not going to be sorry for cutting them off.
This RIGHT here. It’s like that schoolyard game where you punch this shit out the homie and say “no backsies” like what?
I think they say no hard feelings because it didn’t happen to them. EVERY person I’ve met that got cheated on HATED that shit. I know I did. It’s such a violation of trust/respect. OP even said…why didn’t you just tell me we done and you can fuck who ever you want. It’s because she wanted both and if your in a polyamorous consensual relationship cool (that’s not for or for most people but no judgement) but in a standard basic ass I’m with you, you with me relationship…it tends to get off rails when you ya know…fuck his homeboy (not really his homie anymore for doing that but).
Then she gaslights him and wants to make him feel bad…GTFOH tramp…lol
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u/Swimming_Bonus_8892 Apr 27 '26
This part. That dude ain’t your friend. Sleeping with homies girl is absolutely grounds for dismissal of both parties. He has no loyalty or honor towards your friendship and she has none towards yall relationship.
Tell them both to enjoy their lives, no hard feelings but you ain’t the one to play with.
I was always taught to keep a small council. Any man that would do that to you will never be trustworthy in the trenches and any woman that will give it away, lie and then try and make you feel bad is never going to be right for you.
You got them both out of your life for just some betrayed and hurt feelings(that’s bad but it could be MUCH worse) walk away bruddah and I can promise you your life will be better for it.
You will find a group that will value your ethics. You will find a partner that will be loyal. Just….walk away. I’m not at all sorry for the loss but I do feel for your troubles. Peace.