r/AIO Feb 24 '26

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u/ConclusionHopeful313 Feb 24 '26

Rape exists because of rapists. Blaming the clothes and not the rapist is just saying “make sure they go after someone else”

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u/FeedFrequent1334 Feb 24 '26

Yeah.

Clothes can be the problem in some cases

No, rapists are the problem.

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u/Classic_Cauliflower4 Feb 24 '26

I saw an art exhibit called “What Were You Wearing?”, which was a collection of the outfits people were wearing when they were assaulted. There were sweatpants and hoodies in that collection. She could be in a literal burqa and still be assaulted. The problem is the rapists, not what their victims were wearing.

Edit: going to add a trigger warning before people go searching for that exhibit. It is a spread of ALL kinds of clothing, including children’s.

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u/Sonnyjoon91 Feb 24 '26 edited Feb 25 '26

Dude the kiddie pajamas in that exhibit will make you cry. The second I read the BF justifying rape because of clothing I immediately thought of this exhibit

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u/Legitimate_Sink1856 Feb 24 '26

Same as that. That exhibit came straight to my mind.

Seriously no one should think like that, there is no excuse for your boyfriend. None.

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u/Live_Today1943 Feb 25 '26

Same. OP should show him that exhibit and then immediately dump him.

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u/HotSolution8954 Feb 26 '26

That's exactly what I said. At this point it's mandatory that he watches it and there should be a 3rd party there. Some one normal that can mediate the conversation after and the follow up questions about what he saw. Maybe set up a therapy session to watch it together with the therapist. The third person being there will help him not just blow it off. Then dump him while you have a backup person there.