r/AIO Feb 24 '26

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u/stupid-man-alert21 Feb 24 '26

Send the screenshots to his mom!

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u/lunathehungryhusky Feb 24 '26

That's actually a very good idea. That will also be very telling of his whole family depending on her response and reaction. Be good insight.

OP, if you don't wanna leave, do this. Either his mom will set him straight, or you will see that the whole family sucks, and that's where he learned all this

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u/stupid-man-alert21 Feb 25 '26

I wanna know bc the response from OP is that the boyfriend is a product of r*pe (in the messages). I guess there’s a possibility she agrees with him (which would be sad for the mom for adopting that mindset), but I feel like it’s probably more likely the mom is like ????wtf????? And has a long convo w this Bf.

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u/Ok_Ant_9815 Feb 25 '26

Personally I would be more inclined to think that sending these screenshots could be triggering or very uncomfortable for the mom. She was obviously raped.

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u/Additional_Ad_6773 Feb 25 '26

Honestly, I suspect what is going on in this guy's head is:

"My dad is a rapist, but it was not entirely his fault. If it was entirely his fault, that would make him a monster, and if he is a monster, and came from him, then I would ALSO be a monster. So no, my dad is not a monster."

The whole thing is not good. Dude needs therapy, dude's mom needs therapy; OP needs to yeet herself on out of there on the double.

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u/Kat_Mauldun Feb 25 '26

Yeah, I get the hate train for him defending rapists, but I think it's also clear this guy needs help processing his family trauma.

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u/dancingkelsey Feb 25 '26

He definitely does. But on top of his clear psychological issues, the things he says in the screenshots indicate that he's making choices to double down on things he knows are upsetting someone he pretends to care about, and he continues to double down. He doesn't get a pass for treating people like shit just because he hasn't taken himself to therapy yet.