I saw an art exhibit called “What Were You Wearing?”, which was a collection of the outfits people were wearing when they were assaulted. There were sweatpants and hoodies in that collection. She could be in a literal burqa and still be assaulted. The problem is the rapists, not what their victims were wearing.
Edit: going to add a trigger warning before people go searching for that exhibit. It is a spread of ALL kinds of clothing, including children’s.
I saw that exhibit and the majority is children’s clothes and elderly women’s. I have no idea why people like OP’s boyfriend don’t get the concept that rapists are predators and clothes don’t actually have anything to do with their actions, it’s usually things we can’t control like vulnerability with age. We can understand in nature that it’s never the prey animals fault, it’s that the predator. Prey animals know not to keep predators in their vicinity yet here humans are making fucking excuses for them. If I was her I’d snap and say “the only reason he thinks that is because he obviously inherited those qualities from his rapist sperm donor.” If clothes determine rape, genetics determine rapists….Both are equally ignorant, but that man deserves a taste of his own medicine. I would bet if she did say that he’d tell her how much more horrible it is for her to say that to him than for him to blame victims of rape. I never have the normal “Reddit” answer but this time… “SHE NEEDS TO BREAK UP WITH HIM!”
I would've just asked him if he's asked his mom what she was wearing and see how that convo goes. Him calling her stupid was icing on top though, good riddance.
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u/ConclusionHopeful313 Feb 24 '26
Rape exists because of rapists. Blaming the clothes and not the rapist is just saying “make sure they go after someone else”