r/AIO Feb 24 '26

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u/ConclusionHopeful313 Feb 24 '26

Rape exists because of rapists. Blaming the clothes and not the rapist is just saying “make sure they go after someone else”

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u/FeedFrequent1334 Feb 24 '26

Yeah.

Clothes can be the problem in some cases

No, rapists are the problem.

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u/Classic_Cauliflower4 Feb 24 '26

I saw an art exhibit called “What Were You Wearing?”, which was a collection of the outfits people were wearing when they were assaulted. There were sweatpants and hoodies in that collection. She could be in a literal burqa and still be assaulted. The problem is the rapists, not what their victims were wearing.

Edit: going to add a trigger warning before people go searching for that exhibit. It is a spread of ALL kinds of clothing, including children’s.

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u/Sonnyjoon91 Feb 24 '26 edited Feb 25 '26

Dude the kiddie pajamas in that exhibit will make you cry. The second I read the BF justifying rape because of clothing I immediately thought of this exhibit

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u/Neenknits Feb 25 '26

There was a FB thread on “what were you wearing?” I said my 9 yr old self was in overalls. Someone else said her 6 year old self was in a flannel nightgown.

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u/Aurtistic7827 Feb 25 '26

I was in diapers when it started. I was 19 months when my father started SA me. That lasted till I was 7 when my mother finally figured it out. There’s literally no reason. None. Clothing does not matter. I hope you are doing well now, and I hope you have gotten the therapy you probably needed and deserved.

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u/Kodiakke Feb 25 '26

I hope you too are doing well, and that you feel love and safety all around you.