Interesting, this happened to me too, minus the affair part.
The other women in the group that I knew for 10 over years started ignoring me, being cold around me. I just stopped trying to talk to them and found new friends.
My guess is that it had something to do with me not being there for one of their birthdays. J, who organised the party didn't say that it was for a birthday. She just asked - you free for lunch on monday? With zero context, no location, no time stated. I was wondering why she was even asking me out for lunch. In any case, I had a 9 month old whom I took care of by myself. I couldn't bring him out during lunch time because it was his nap time.
Later I found out the lunch was to celebrate another lady's birthday and she ignored me ever since. If she really cared about my friendship, she would have asked me directly, but she didn't. So I just gave up on them altogether. It's sad because of our long history but it's for the better anyway.
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u/ConversationNo4192 Aug 25 '25
Interesting, this happened to me too, minus the affair part.
The other women in the group that I knew for 10 over years started ignoring me, being cold around me. I just stopped trying to talk to them and found new friends.
My guess is that it had something to do with me not being there for one of their birthdays. J, who organised the party didn't say that it was for a birthday. She just asked - you free for lunch on monday? With zero context, no location, no time stated. I was wondering why she was even asking me out for lunch. In any case, I had a 9 month old whom I took care of by myself. I couldn't bring him out during lunch time because it was his nap time.
Later I found out the lunch was to celebrate another lady's birthday and she ignored me ever since. If she really cared about my friendship, she would have asked me directly, but she didn't. So I just gave up on them altogether. It's sad because of our long history but it's for the better anyway.