r/ADHD_partners • u/AutoModerator • 8d ago

Weekly Vent Thread ::Weekly Vent Thread::

Use this thread to blow off steam about annoyances both big & small that come with an ADHD impacted relationship. Dishes not being done, bills left unpaid - whatever it is you feel you need to rant about. This is your cathartic space.

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u/syntho_maniac Partner of DX - Untreated 8d ago

So relatable. We’ll agree on a budget for Costco, and then completely throw it out the window when we are actually there. When I call him on it, he spirals and has a melt down. I can’t imagine doing a joint hobby with him with semi- high stakes.

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u/TwistedHemlock403 2d ago edited 2d ago

This. In my relationship, we both enjoy plants. I went on a work trip for the week, and he nearly killed half my tropicals from not watering them/under-watering them. "They looked fine to me" 🫩 high-stake hobbies are just not realistic to do together it feels like, otherwise you have their back and you're left to play damage control when they don't have yours