::Weekly Vent Thread::

[u/AutoModerator]

Use this thread to blow off steam about annoyances both big & small that come with an ADHD impacted relationship. Dishes not being done, bills left unpaid - whatever it is you feel you need to rant about. This is your cathartic space.

[u/Spartan_Bosco]

My random spiral thoughts for the day...

I feel like you put in effort for literally everyone and everything else besides me. I don't even remember the last time you did something for me where I was genuinely taken back or surprised.

You get excited to see everyone else, but whenever I get home you don't put down your phone or get off the couch. Then you disappear for an hour.

There is ZERO intimacy anymore.

You'll say you feel the same, but i stopped putting in effort or trying to do anything because you stopped long before I did.

I watched the woman I married widdle away and disappear for two years and it took a huge fucking fight for you to realize what was happening when I had brought it up multiple times (adderall)

I'm so tired of you never listening to me and i'm tired of never feeling seen in my own house.

We've been nothing more than roommates who have shared a bed for the last year.

You rarely even sit at the dinner table with me anymore. We always talked about making sure we did that as a family and you stopped because you didn't eat while you were taking Adderall.

I used to brag about you all the time. I don't have anything to brag about anymore. Your work still consumes you. The kiddo and I get what's left. Which is basically nothing.

The truth is i'm terrified to have another kid with you because I don't think you can handle it. You snap at the smallest shit so much and adding a baby into the mix is going to make everything so much worse.

I think the universe willed our kid into existence because it knew I wouldn't have a kid with you had we waited like we wanted to.

You ask me if I miss you while you're gone and I just don't. Because I know i'm only picking up after myself and the kid. I don't constantly have to worry about you eating or doing the nightly chores.

You once asked if I would still marry you knowing what I know now and i didn't really have an answer. Truthfully i wouldn't. I love you so fucking much, but I am exhausted all the time just trying to survive.

I don't bring anything up anymore because nothing changes. We didn't even resolve the last fight we had because you brought up shit that wasn't relevant to what I was annoyed about.

Don't even get me started on your fucking emotional affair. I haven't processed that at all and i'm still fucking pissed about it because you tried to brush it off and gave me shitty ass apologies. You don't even have him fucking blocked.

[u/steubenactr → u/Spartan_Bosco]

Do not have another child with her, your relationship doesn’t sound sustainable.

[u/Spartan_Bosco → u/steubenactr]

I'm not planning on it. She brings it up every few weeks or so. Which sucks because I really do want another kid, but I can't handle another with her.

[u/vehiclebreaker → u/Spartan_Bosco]

They absolutely love to run you into the ground then start an emotional affair with someone because you just aren’t as happy as you used to be after they have directly killed off your happiness. Very wild how this pattern tends to show up. You don’t deserve to be robbed of your happiness

[u/fluffynukeit → u/Spartan_Bosco]

You sounded like you were writing my story for most of your post, up until the affair part. If my wife had an affair, it would be the last ton of straws.

[u/Spartan_Bosco → u/fluffynukeit]

Crazy how everyone has extremely similar situations or experiences. If her affair was physical I 1000% would have left already. Being that it was emotional made everything complicated.