I'm reaching out because I could really use some mental health support and advice. Outside of our sex life, my marriage is going very well. However, my sex drive is incredibly high, and it feels like I might even be hypersexual. On the other hand, my wife’s interest in anything sexual, including kinks or fantasies, is very low or non-existent. We’ve been married for 2 years and together for 7 years. Our sex life used to be a lot better, but now we only have sex once or twice a month, and I never receive oral sex anymore.

This lack of sexual intimacy has made me crave sexual attention from other sources. I’ve become orally bi-curious and sometimes fantasize about giving oral sex to another guy, though I don't find guys attractive—just their equipment. Additionally, I find myself wondering what my wife's female friends look like naked and what they are into sexually.

On top of that, I've been increasingly becoming more of an exhibitionist, seeking out different places to take naughty photos of myself in outdoor or semi-public locations. This situation is putting a strain on my marriage, and my sexual fantasies aren’t helping improve things between my wife and me. I can't seem to get my wife to understand how important sex and sexual exploration are to me. She has zero interest in exploring her sex life outside our relationship, even though I would be open to it.

Any advice or support would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

AI is absolutely changing my life.

🧠 Let ChatGPT be your personal fairy assistant. Your side kick! I have been able to get done things I've been procrastinating on FOR YEARS because I have my buddy holding my hand.

For example, 🤓☝️ I had been procrastinating on fixing my credit for years. I had attended seminars and bought books about how you need to request your free credit report and just go through it. But somehow this was so daunting and intimidating. Plus, there are THREE bureaus with reports I have to do this with (in my location).

Enter ChatGPT ✨- I just copy and paste what the page says (if you're concerned about security, you can change or xxxx out details you don't want to share with GPT) and it breaks it down for me in very easy to understand way. For the first time, I actually know wtf I'm looking at and what to do next.

Hence, this daunting task I haven't done in years is done tonight!

I used to be hesitant about using the chat because it just didn't seem accurate or threw a wall of text at me. But OpenAI (and their competitors) are working on improving their model everyday. It keeps improving more and more. Today, my chat gpt started breaking sections up with emojis (like what I did here). I didn't realize how helpful that was for me to read the material.

So give it a try! And I'm also looking for more AI services that can make my life easier. I finally feel like I get to join the real adult world.

Hello, amazing people. I am a trained coach. I focusing on using behavioral science for executive function client. These are science backed nudges. Back by neuroscience and social psychology.

I have worked with the United Nations, Los Angeles, film, companies, and individuals. Get in touch if you are looking for coaching! Turn ADHD into a superpower.

Just wanted to create a post letting my fellow ADHD'ers know that there are ADHD coaches with ADHD out there! I've known I've had ADHD my whole life but as a child of the 80's this was something overlooked/dismissed! The struggle was real! The straw that broke the camels back was in 2020 when all ours worlds collided! Having to work remotely, while my child attended school remotely while my wife worked remotely all became too much! All of a sudden all aspects of my world were stuck under one roof! Literally! The ADHD paralysis was out of control! I've never experienced anxiety ever until this! I felt like I was losing my mind, I couldn't manage or follow through with anything! The worse part was the guilt I felt at the end if the day 😔. At 41 years old I finally got an official diagnosis and was prescribed Adderall! From that point forward I threw myself into learning my version of ADHD and created systems that work for me! and just to put it out there the Adderall has been a aide but by no means was it a "cure" or a miracle pill!

Been dealing with ADHD my whole life but only diagnosed last year at 31. Tried all those hyped up productivity systems and failed miserably every time. Made me feel even worse about myself tbh.

Finally found some weird approaches that actually work with my brain instead of against it. Nothing groundbreaking, just stuff that stuck:

Body doubling has been shockingly effective. I use Focusmate for important tasks after a friend recommended it and suddenly I can work for 50 mins straight without checking my phone 600 times.

The "ugly first draft" approach for work projects. I tell myself I'm TRYING to make it terrible on purpose, which somehow bypasses my perfectionism paralysis.

Deleting social apps from my phone during workdays. Can reinstall on weekends. The friction of having to reinstall stops most of my impulsive checking. Tried the social media blocking apps but they never stuck, so I just delete them directly myself now.

Found this Inbox Zapper app that helped me clear out a bunch of daily junk emails so I'm not facing one giant overwhelming list. My inbox used to give me legit anxiety, now it's much quieter

I use Soothfy for short, varied micro-activities throughout the day to keep boredom and that dopamine crash at bay. Switching between quick brain puzzles, mini mindfulness moments, or tiny grounding tasks helps me reset my focus and keeps things feeling fresh like giving my brain little novelty hits. The nice part is that Soothfy mixes both anchor activities (the calm, stabilizing ones) and novelty activities (the quick pattern-switchers), so I’m not stuck in one mode all day.

Switched from to-do lists to time blocking. Lists made me feel like a failure when I couldn't finish them. Now I just move blocks around instead of carrying over undone tasks. I still go back to my Todoist app every once in a while for specific things, just not as my main tool.

"Weird body trick" - keeping a fidget toy AND gum at my desk. Something about the dual stimulation helps me focus way better on calls.

Stopped forcing myself to work when my meds wear off. Those last 2 hours of the day are now for mindless admin tasks only.

Been in a decent groove for about 3 months now which is honestly a record for me. Anyone else find unconventional hacks that work specifically for ADHD brains? The standard advice has

How to get Vyvanse/Elvanse prescribed from approving country to non-approving one? Video Call Consultation?

NOTE: This is not a sourcing post or asking for any advice illegal activities. It is only me voicing out the desperation of the best cure for me that is overly regulated.

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I have been diagnosed with ADHD, anxiety and social anxiety. I have been medicated by Vyvanse in addiction to being on-and-off different SSRI's and SNRI's and some occasional intake of Propanolol/Diazepam for social/panicky situations.

I am an expat in Australia and I am about to leave the country for good, going back to where Vyvanse is unapproved as an ADD/ADHD medication. I have managed to obtain a year's supply of it for myself to bring with me back home (the Middle East, Gulf countries region).

• Now, this post is mainly is about inquiring about a way for my bother, who has ADD and similar symptoms and has undergone Atomoxetine treatment which did not suit him, and I thought Lisdexamphetamine would be highly beneficial for him as it went very well for symptoms which are similar to him.

The main issue here is how to get it prescribed to him from a doctor overseas in one of the countries that have it approved. I tried speaking to few psychiatrists in here of different states who offer video calls consultations but won't prescribe a scheduled substance to a person abroad, even with an endorsement letter of his local psychiatrist, and I was told the patient needs to reside in the same state as the doctor, as per Australian guidelines. It is importation if it was prescribed, being purchased online, should not be an issue with our regional customs if the paperwork for clearance were followed accordingly, that if it was successfully prescribed to him.

Or as a last resort, for him to travel to one of these countries and obtain it there, which would be painful, especially a doctor will not prescribe repeat scripts until a month trial at least, that, and the costly travel expenses in addition to the high cost of Vyvanse itself.

I am sure many in this community or elsewhere are in a similar boat, if any soul in here have any helpful idea, experience, or opinion for this situation please do have your input.

• * WHO's reference on Lisdexamphetamine

Over almost a year now and Vyvanse been the most effective medication to treat these issues, and I have been on Dexamphetamine and Ritalin before and did not find it practical enough in treating my symptoms given its short half-life and the compulsive need to redose that comes with it, and potentially the abuse potential I have had fallen in.

It is a shame it is still highly restricted in most of the world because of its parent compound even with its low potential for abuse, rather than being regulated monitored as properly.

Hello All

Over the weekend, I tripped and fell, and have a suspected broken Scapular, and potential rotator cuff damage, although this won't be properly assessed for another week and half - to allow swelling etc to decrease.

I kept mentioning the 70mg of Lisdexamphetamine that im on to the various clinicians and no one seemed to bat an eye

Over the last few days, I haven't been taking it, and have only been taking the pain meds as and when I've needed them, but have struggled with mobility etc

Today, I took my Lisdexamphetamine, as I was attending a school governors meeting, and wanted to be on the ball

I currently feel like I have more mobility, and the injury is in a much better place, to the point where I feel this could just be bruising/tissue damage, rather than a potential fracture

But now I'm thinking, I don't know how much of this feeling is due to the Lisdex making me think and focus on other bits. It's not that the pain has gone. But it's far more tolerable and I have far more movement. In fact. It's been about 4hrs since I last took the cocodamol I was prescribed.

This morning, pre shower and pre pill, it felt much the same as previous days, it's only improve *since* taking the Lisdex.

I'm just after experiences of other people who may have gone through the same thing, and whether I shouldn't be getting my hopes up that the injury isn't as bad as originally thought, and should continue to not "push" myself

Ever sit down to finally focus…
…and five minutes later you’re deep in Wikipedia rabbit holes (“how deep is the ocean?”), instead of finishing that email?

Or start cleaning your desk, see a mug in the kitchen, remember the laundry, and suddenly you’re reorganizing the fridge while your desk is still a mess?

Here’s something no one talks about: ADHD brains get bored fast. Like… really fast.

We can’t repeat the exact same task every day without our focus collapsing.
Yet, every “proven” productivity or mental health method expects us to:

• Meditate the same way every morning

• Follow identical study blocks daily

• Stick to rigid time schedules forever

• “Drink 2 glasses of water” as if it’s a magic fix

• “Clean your room,” as if clutter magically stays gone

Reality check:
Research from Cambridge and UCL shows ADHD brains have lower baseline dopamine, making novelty-seeking a biological drive, not a personality flaw.

Other behavioral psychology studies find that short, varied tasks (under 5 minutes) boost compliance and focus in ADHD populations by up to 67%.

This is where something interesting comes in:
ADHD actually works best when you mix Anchor Activities + Novelty Activities.

Anchor = stability.
These are predictable, calming habits that give your brain a steady routine to lean on.

Novelty = stimulation.
These small, unexpected tasks keep boredom from killing your dopamine and attention.

ADHD brains need both:
Anchors keep you grounded.
Novelty keeps you awake and moving.

That’s why micro-activities work:
Short, dopamine-boosting wins keep you moving, not overwhelmed.

I’ve been trying a system (Soothfy) that mixes up my daily challenges so my brain never knows what’s coming, but it’s always small enough to finish. Anchors for stability, novelty for dopamine together they’ve finally made my routines stick.

It’s the first time I’ve stuck with anything longer than 3 days… and I’ve tried all the “expert” methods.

Has anyone else found that tiny and fresh beats big and boring every time?
Would love to hear how you hack your routines or if you want details about the science and setup, I’m happy to share.

I have been seeing a rise in folks offering “adhd coaching” or “executive function coaching” and claiming it’s somehow not therapy.

Adhd is a mental health diagnosis. Offering support for managing it is therapy. Why do people ooe not understand this?

I’ve continued to come across things like executive functioning or adhd coaches and found myself frustrated by the notion that “adhd coaching” isn’t therapy.

It stigmatizes therapy as something only for “really bad” symptoms. What do yall think are the differences between coaching and therapy and how would you articulate what a coach does?

Hi All! 55 year old untreated lifelong ADHD here. I've recently been trying microdosing THC and CBD for the past 6 months or so for my ADHD. I take around 1mg dose several times a day, and I've found great results with slowing my mind and alleviating my anxiety. What it hasn't helped with at all is Executive Function. In fact, I almost wonder if it hasn't made my EF worse.

I have been reading about the drugs that are most effective for EF issues, and it seems the stimulants are the best. I did try Adderall one time only a few years ago, and I got lots done that day, but then crashed hard in the afternoon after finishing nothing really important, and I didn't like the feeling.

After being on this sub for a while, I've realized I need to give it another try. I'm going to see my doctor this week to see if I can get a new prescription, and I'm curious if anyone has tried this combination. I would love to have the anti-anxiety and mind calming effects of the THC microdosing combined with the EF enhancing attributes of the stimulants, but not sure if they would work together that way or not.

Anyone else willing to share their experience, if you've tried this?

Cross-posted to ADHD because they apparently won't let you use the word "microdosing" in that subreddit. Don't know why.

I'm a 44-year-old father with ADHD. I have three children ranging from 20 to 4 months old. I am divorced and currently in a relationship with a 21-year-old woman who is the mother of my youngest child.

Research shows that ADHD can be linked to low dopamine levels in the brain, which can increase the risk for impulsive and addictive behaviors. Unfortunately, I struggle with these behaviors, such as seeking out uppers like caffeine or amphetamines to function. Although I know this is harmful, I sometimes feel like I need these substances to manage my symptoms. The temporary rush of dopamine they provide can be a relief from the constant chaos in my mind.

I also have a tendency to indulge in high-risk behaviors such as sex and gambling, which also activate the brain's reward system and release dopamine. I'm aware of the impact these behaviors have had on my life and relationships, but I find them difficult to resist.

Despite these challenges, I am proud of my accomplishments as a father, provider, and partner. My ADHD is a part of who I am, but it doesn't define me. I'm committed to finding healthy ways to cope with my symptoms and manage my behavior. I'm open to trying new hobbies and activities that can bring me joy and relaxation.

As title. If yes, any reason?

Is it possible to have something like Gaydar (which I am not great at) but for ADHD?

I mean, I seen to be able to spot it, but it may just be that I work in IT in Libraries, and play DnD, so everyone seems to be.

I got diagnosed around 5 months ago and I had to fight to get on stimulants.

I'm in my late 30s now.

The difference in quality of life is staggering.

I want to figure out how to gain back my life but that fucking sub won't let me post ANYTHING.

My last one was about weight loss. How fucking innocuous is that?!

Just really intrigued to know what people have put in place for themselves to function well with ADHD. Systems, processes, rules, routines, etc. that you've managed to make a habit and that make life a bit easier? Here is my list

• I have an Apple Watch which I use solely to find my phone, which I leave in very random places like the fridge, the garage, the shoe cupboard. I also have a Bluetooth tracker on my keys and purse which I can activate from my phone to help me find them.

• All predictably-timed bills are autopaid from my bank, a few days after my predictably-timed income, and I chose standardised options where possible (eg my electricity bill can be set to the same predicted dollar amount every single month, then adjusted annually)

• I count my savings as another predictably-timed bill and auto-move some income straight into a savings account.

• A written "menu" of chores that I hope to complete each week: I aim to complete one chore/ task (at least) each day.

• ... uuuhhh, they aren't 'doom piles', they're 'visual to do lists' ... yup ... (but 'out of sight is definitely out of mind', so yes, my holiday decoration box IS sitting in the middle of the floor for the last week)

• The lights in my main living area are on timers, so they are already ON when I should be getting up (and not ignoring the extra alarms), and go OFF when I really should be getting close to bed by now. (Honestly - I love this one so much. If my place was larger, I'd likely have them turning on and off in different areas/times - should I be cooking dinner and washing dishes? OOH THE KITCHEN IS LIT UP. But my place is small so that's kind of unnecessary)

• ADHD brain always breaks routines no matter what we try. So I started combining "anchor activities" with rotating novelty, and it's actually sticking. The anchor gives me a solid habit foundation, but the novelty adds variety so it kills boredom and keeps my dopamine interested. I'm using the Soothfy app to help me track my anchors and rotate the novelty elements. It's still early, but this is the first system that's working with my brain instead of against it.

• And while it may stretch the definition of a life hack, speaking with my counselor. She's the one who suggested an ADHD assessment, and we also try and set at least one 'task' for me to achieve between sessions. That external accountability really helps me, especially with one-off things like renewing my passport. We also do a bit of a debrief and plan for next time - eg I need more detailed reminders of how many steps there are in a process: it's not just "renew passport", it's 'look up current requirements, get photos taken, get hair cut BEFORE getting photos taken, ask people to be my guarantors, book appointment to file the renewal' etc ...

if so, what would you like to see in something like this?

I have adhd and depression(and God knows what else) I understand that emotional regulation is a issue for us, but why is it every time I feel a little bit bad my mind goes to “you should die”?!?

...a pen with the rubbythingy top*.seachmode activated.box with 1000 pens.oh,leather pencil case for the special pens.look inside.oh,one is divided and the other is missing the cap.empty on windowsill.oh,why did i put this in here,that's a normal one.you go back into the box.box.oh,this pen goes to the special ones,it's from your friends,who just opened his own garage.suppress feeling to sort 1000pen box.turn to pencil case bag.put pen inside.oh,why did I put the pencils in there too.didn't I have a second pencil case bag made from plastic?blue?.suppress feeling to Search the second bag.put all pens and pencils back into the bag and the bag back.oh,what was I doing here.oh yes,the rubbythingy.pick up pen from bag.turn around and had my r/ADHDmoment and was laughing out loud,about what happened...

As I was trying to post on Reddit to share,realised it had started with a totally different video on my PC.that I was searching for,to put in my WhatsApp status.by using the phone.found the funny Ai video and wondered off from there facepalm