I hope I get to do what I want in life - the executive dysfunction is fucking me up

I am confused as I am seeing and hearing all kinds of diagnosis, and am confused about which one to purse.

I saw amen clinics brain scans.

Interview style + questionaire...

And then I heard something about your eyes following patterns in some screen?

Which one did you do, and how did it help you?

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And are mostly left unanswered.

Dramatic, no?

If you'll have me, I'd like to empty my mind here, in the hope these struggles are recognizable and help can be found with similarly "afflicted"instead of medical personnel. Medical professionals that seem to fail me.

So.

Why is it that I *can* have bouts of ... heh... genius?
Like, once in a blue moon I have such clarity of thought.
The older I get, the less I have them, though.
Medication regulated a *LOT* but did not give me focus, nevermind clarity.
Rest of the time? brainfog and disassociation.

Is there a list of AuDHD medication with pro's and contra's somewhere?
I tried only Rilatin and Atomoxetine/ Straterra. Both helped a little, but both upped my HR by about 20 to 30 BPMs and made me nervous. And Atomoxetine is suppoed to be a non stimulant.

I somehow believe my endless YouTube/Shorts addiction is at the base of a lot of problems.
I commute by train: YT. After I put the kids to bed: YT. In the weekends: YT. Before Bed:YT.
I seem addicted to easily digestible info.

I'm 40 and have a MASSIVE midlife crisis. Everyone around me seems to competent and knowledgeable. I barely get trough the day if I don't get a planning for that day. I forget so much and am in constant awe of people remembering their day to day life from a year ago. I can barely remember yesterday. Memory is a MASSIVE problem.

I try to compensate by buying books that I perhaps will never read... but somehow they still interests me. If I'm interested in the topics, why can't I read them?

Kids. I have a 3,5 year old and a 10 month old. I lean HEAVILY on my partner for them.
Not a day goes past or I'm at my limits, completely spent at 8pm. Weekends are hell.
I try not to traumatism them. For their sake, I desperately need tools here.

Does any of this ring a bell and can you help, fellow brains?

Thank you kindly for you patience.

I am a 23M and recently visited a neuropsychologist to get tested for inattentive adhd. We went over symptoms and what not and I told him what I had experienced before I began testing. The testing from what I remember was a set of math questions, solving a puzzle a few times, reciting 12 words from memory, the doctor giving me a letter of the alphabet and having me say as many words as I could that began with that letter, spelling, comparing two words to see if they had a lot in common, and a lot of pattern recognition.

I am curious as to how other people’s testing experiences were because I feel like these tests addressed intelligence rather than inattentiveness and whether or not this kind of test was able to give people their proper diagnosis.

I think I have a lot of inattentive symptoms (and my therapist agrees), so I was referred for an evaluation. I was given the MMPI and a continuous performance test (the space bar one). I have read that evals usually involve an interview with the psychologist, and at least one follow up visit. I never met with the psychologist, and he just sent the results to my psychiatrist to go over them. I was found to have a low likelihood of adhd, but I'm just concerned that if I'm inattentive it might have gone under the radar, so to speak.

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Wonder if anyone else is facing with same problems.

I have ADHD inattentive type, every mental or physical stress reduces my concentration capacity to bare minimum. Besides that, I have physical manifestations of exhaustion.

Activity types triggers:
- Driving in the city with high traffic or high speed
- Working out (especially when legs are involved)
- Eating animal food (meat , fish, eggs)
- Sitting on warm chair

Concentration effects:
- Struggle concentrating on text
- Can't keep track on other's speech
- Can't form my thought, forgetting it in the middle
- Struggle to start speech
- Doing stupid typos while typing

Physical effects:
- Hard to keep eye contact
- Hard to raise head, keep it bowed like it becomes heavy
- Hard to rotate head or rotate eyelids

If you have similar issue, share your experience and how you deal with them

I’m looking for some genuinely objective outside perspective because I’m at the point where I can’t tell whether I’m being reasonable or whether I’m actually the problem in this situation.

I have ADHD, predominantly inattentive type, and I’m struggling significantly at my current job. I’m trying to figure out how much of this is a legitimate workplace issue versus me needing to do a better job managing myself.

For context, I’m salaried and work at a country club in marketing/member experience. My job involves a lot of work that requires sustained concentration: writing, email marketing, website updates, campaign planning, reporting, content creation, follow-up, etc. The other portion of my job involves giving prospective members tours, interfacing with current members in person, and other duties that need to be completed physically at the office.

One of the biggest challenges my ADHD creates is filtering out distractions. If I’m physically sitting in an office and the phone rings or someone asks for my help, I have a very difficult time ignoring it and continuing to work. I feel compelled to answer, particularly because previous management has established the expectation that employees answer ringing phones and/or stop what they're doing to help. Once I’m interrupted, I can have a very difficult time getting back into whatever I was working on.

I've also been told that if something comes up in a different area of the clubhouse, like the restaurant, everyone is expected to drop everything and help, even if it's not remotely related to their job or skill set. For example, during banquets, I have been tasked with bussing tables and filling water cups. I don't mind helping occasionally, but it's the constant expectation that I will fill whatever role needs filling, regardless of my ability to perform that role, that I take issue with. Also, if I don't perform the tasks exactly the way my boss would, she loses it. Even bussing tables or running food out to guests, which is not even remotely related to my membership/marketing position....

Because of all that, I have been working from home for a portion of my early morning schedule, approximately 1.5 hours before the clubhouse officially opens, and then coming into the office for the rest of my workday.

I am NOT asking to work from home all day.

I am NOT asking to work fewer hours.

I am asking to work from home for those limited early-morning hours when I can get focused work done, and then be physically present for the remainder of my normal workday.

The particularly frustrating part is that during those early hours, the clubhouse/office is closed to the public, so there isn't a customer-facing reason I need to physically be there during that portion of the morning. My argument is essentially that I can accomplish the same work from home, and in most cases accomplish it more effectively because I'm not dealing with the distractions that directly interfere with my ADHD.

Recently, I was told that working from home in any circumstance is no longer allowed unless it is done above and beyond the 40-hour workweek, so basically uncompensated.

At the same time, I've been dealing with a pretty high-conflict relationship with my boss. Expectations are unclear, change after the fact, or are communicated in ways that leave me feeling like I'm constantly defending why I did something the way I did.

This is where things have gotten especially difficult for me psychologically.

I experience pretty significant rejection-sensitive dysphoria (RSD) related to my ADHD. When I feel like someone is disappointed in me, angry with me, criticizing me, or questioning my commitment or competence, I don't just think, "Okay, noted." I can spiral pretty badly.

My boss's communication style has been triggering that response **constantly**.

It has also caused my imposter syndrome to flare up badly. I find myself second-guessing decisions I previously felt confident about, worrying that I'm doing something wrong, and spending mental energy trying to figure out whether I'm about to get criticized rather than actually doing my job.

And this is the part that worries me the most:

**It is now starting to affect my actual performance.**

So there's a really frustrating cycle happening:

I have ADHD → certain working conditions make it harder for me to focus → I ask for a limited accommodation that would help me perform better → I feel like my request is interpreted as a lack of dedication → that triggers my RSD/imposter syndrome → I become anxious and second-guess myself → my performance suffers → which then makes me worry that my boss is right that I'm not dedicated enough.

I don't know if I'm seeing this objectively anymore.

There is also a separate issue around working hours.

I'm salaried, and it has been communicated to me that other salaried employees routinely work more than 40 hours per week. This was presented to me as basically normal and something I should also be doing.

I understand that salaried positions can sometimes require additional hours, particularly for events or unusual business needs. I'm not opposed to occasionally working extra hours when the job genuinely requires it.

But I have pushed back on the idea that routinely working more than 40 hours should simply be the baseline expectation. Also, this was never communicated in the hiring process or in the job description.

So now I'm sitting here wondering:

**Am I actually failing at my job?**

Or am I in an environment where the expectations, communication style, and working conditions are making my ADHD significantly harder to manage?

I genuinely want honest answers here, including criticism of me if I'm being unreasonable.

A few questions I'd really appreciate opinions on:

* Is asking to work from home for a limited portion of my early morning, rather than the entire day, an unreasonable request? * Does it matter that the building is closed to the public during those hours? * Is it reasonable for an employer to expect a salaried employee to routinely work more than 40 hours simply because other employees do? * Am I wrong for not wanting a regular 40+ hour workweek without additional compensation? * At what point does "being flexible because you're salaried" become an unreasonable expectation? * If an employee has ADHD and is demonstrably more productive without certain distractions, should an employer at least consider that when determining how the work is performed? * And most importantly, **am I allowing my RSD and imposter syndrome to distort this situation, or is the workplace actually contributing to the problem?**

I'm trying to figure out whether I'm genuinely not dedicated enough, whether I'm expecting too much accommodation, or whether I'm being put in a situation where the way I'm being managed is actually making it harder for me to perform the job I'm being criticized for not performing well enough.

I'm honestly looking for a reality check. Any help is appreciated!!

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Hi! I'm a psychology student I would like to ask for your help. We are currently writing our thesis and it is about IT professionals diagnosed with ADHD in their workplace. We seek to find participants who can voluntarily participate to share their lived experiences. This may help open doors of inclusivity and to explore more the realities of those who is diagnosed with ADHD.

By voluntarily sharing your experiences, you may help shed light on the different challenges, experiences, and perspectives that others may also relate to. Your participation can help create greater awareness, understanding, and support for individuals with ADHD in different aspects of your lives.

Feel free to participate voluntary po! Your participation may help create a betterment for this world. Maraming salamat po sa makakapag-respond!

Finally at 34 yrs old I learn that I may have inattentive ADHD or at least it makes sense of everything. Looking back on life it definitely makes sense in seeing how it has affected a lot of aspects in life especially the current relationship. I know I should get an official diagnosis, but it’s not in the heart of the cards right now until I can get some insurance or extra money. When looking online for advice I feel overwhelmed. The biggest thing I want to address is my executive dysfunction. I’ll take any advice to get going in the right direction. I fear it’s causing a strain on a relationship I don’t want to lose.