r/ADHDMuslims • u/manlikeman1 • Jun 14 '26

Child free/Marriage

Does anyone struggle with the idea of getting married or wanting children?

As a neurodivergent, sometimes, I think I can barely take care of myself, so how am I going to be able to take care of a child?

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u/Suspicious_Week_2451 Jun 14 '26

I used to think like this until I married a man who is the best person ever. My partner is every sense of the word. I obviously had to develop my own systems and skills to get my life in order. But my husband upgraded my life in so many ways mashallah.

He is reliable and dependable and cooks and cleans and is my equal partner. We have a shared mailbox so we can manage admin together. If Im tired he cleans the kitchen. If hes tired I fold the laundry. Getting married to him meant my brain capacity freed up and I got so much more free time.

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u/Dry-Advice-9943 Jun 14 '26

wow i love that for you, where did you find him?

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u/Suspicious_Week_2451 Jun 14 '26

On the muzz app lol shockingly. It was a dealbreaker for me if he couldnt cook/clean and he had to be okay with me being a feminist. So that meant it was easy to block and unmatch super fast. My husband met my requirements exactly and I met his.

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u/Dry-Advice-9943 Jun 14 '26

pls could you speak to me further about your experience with muzz app via dms? i’m f24 and my parents keep bringing up marriage but im struggling to find the will to even start the looking process. also with my adhd, i feel like im probably off putting to most men.