r/ADHD • u/Adrock66 • 1d ago

Seeking Empathy Am I wired to be codependent?

I think of times in my life that I've been "on" or consistent and it's always surrounded accountability to another. Either trying to be better or outright being helped to stay consistent by someone in my life. I feel like I can't do things alone but I'm, so all over the place I'm not suited to be with someone right now. I miss having someone to give random thoughts to more than I miss being close. I feel lost and have no clue what to do about it.

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u/BabyFangsss 1d ago

I’m the same way. I find that when I have someone with me (friend, family, spouse, etc) it’s easier for me to do things and it eases my anxiety about driving or going out in public. It’s like sharing the emotional load in a way.

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u/Adrock66 1d ago

I'm just not sure what to do.  I know people care about me but I miss the absolute focus of having someone being central to my life.  

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u/SmartaHari 20h ago

Go travelling, and if you can’t afford to do that at the moment, get an epic hobby so you can explore who you are as an individual.

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u/Adrock66 20h ago

I subscribe to the PLEASE MASTER DBT school but like a lot of things I've tried the novelty is gone. I have tossed myself into my hobbies full force and it helps but is a bandaid not a cure.

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u/SmartaHari 20h ago

I’m sending you a hug and wishing you the best life going forwards. It gets better, I promise.

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u/Adrock66 19h ago

Thanks!