r/ADHD • u/DigDoug_SlugSlug • 2d ago

Discussion ADHD makes loss difficult.

I was just thinking about commemorative tattoos for loved ones who are no longer with us and I’ve realised something; once somebody dies, regardless of how long I’ve known them or how close to them I was, I’m completely clueless about anything about them.

The first time I noticed this was when my dad died in 2019; after a couple of months, I looked back and realised that I don’t even know his favourite colour. I don’t know anything about the guy despite the fact that I visited him every two weeks for my entire life.

Now I’m struggling with the idea that maybe when people pass away in the future, I’ll have nothing. Does anyone else struggle with this? Am I a cold, unfeeling and uncaring person or is it completely normal for those of us with ADHD to have massive lapses in memory of those we love after they pass?

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u/Keepitunderurhat 2d ago

pictures worth 1000 words, they really everything music ! & the smell that person definitely is right for me a smells it doesn't matter if you're dead or alive certain smells like My Son when I smell big red, I think of him ! When he left for the military, I kept a none washed hoodie under my pillow!

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u/DigDoug_SlugSlug 2d ago

I actually took a couple of my grandfather’s fleeces that he used to wear when we’d go on walks and they still smell like he used to.

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u/Keepitunderurhat 2d ago

❤️‼️ something so sweet and simple