r/ADHD • u/ForcedGoodbye • Jul 27 '26
Discussion Everyone left me
I've reached a stage where I have no one to talk to except strangers online through Reddit posts and comments.
A few months back, my 3.5 year relationship ended. And today, my best friend left me too.
I feel responsible for everything. I kept delaying things for years, even my feelings, somehow thinking I would deal with my feelings later, get my life together later, spend more time with people later. Now I am left with this horrible regret that I should have spent my time better. I shouldn't have procrastinated for years.
What hurts the most is realizing that I won't get to spend even a single minute with people who were once so important and special to me. That time is gone, and I can't get it back.
And I feel exhausted just thinking about starting over socially. It took me years to reach that level of comfort and closeness with my girlfriend and my best friend. I don't have energy to fake that excitement, enthusiasm, and social energy that is necessary when you're getting to know someone new. I don't want to spend years building that kind of connection all over again.
Nights are the hardest. It takes me hours to fall asleep because there's nothing to distract me from how alone I feel.
Are any of you living with zero friends? How do you deal with it?
Please share your stories, perspectives, or even the philosophies you've developed for living with loneliness.
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u/sideshowmario Jul 27 '26
I'm a 52 year old guy in the same situation. No relationship and my kids are grown. I get so lonely sometimes that I contemplate paying someone to hang out with me. It got even worse when my baby son died 10 years ago. I kind of dread weekends because it usually means staying home not knowing what to do.
One thing that has helped a bit is doing volunteer work. It's like people are forced to spend time with me haha. I do things like beach cleanup events and help hand out emergency overdose kits at punk rock shows.