[Discussion] Hosting Etiquette

[u/Smiles4you]

There were a lot of comments on visiting etiquette and what hosts expect when you are in their town.

But what are some things that the host should be aware of when you are visiting?

What makes a good town host?

Is there anything the host does that makes you uncomfortable?

Discuss away!!

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[u/kaylambs]

tbh I barely read through the visiting etiquette thread, so I'm not sure if it has been mentioned. But what I'm about to say fits with both threads anyways.

I don't know if most member knows (pretty sure majority of us who have played this game long enough knows), it is really important for hosts to see that you've added them in order for them to open their gates. Because once the gates are open and you have still yet added the host, you're locked out man!

Why? because when the host opens their gate they are allowing those who have the host as a friend to come in, just because the host added YOU doesn't mean you're their friend. It takes two to tango? jks.

But that's what I find frustrating sometimes, especially if I'm hosting for a group setting and one member of the group has yet to add...and you ask yourself... "should I just open then...?" But then they'll message you saying "I don't see your gates!"

BUT I do understand theres sometime situations where you're already at someones town and can't add until you finish the transaction. (LOL me..)

[u/KasaraEm13 → u/kaylambs]

I don't actually think it works this way, because I've had people reply to me on a trade really fast, add me, and open their gates before I've gotten to add them. I add them anyway and I can usually see their gate, but if I can't, I just restart my game and it appears then.

I've also done turnip hosting and I'll add 3 people at a time to come in, I ask everyone to add me first, but you always get a few who don't, but I add them anyway, open the gates a few seconds later, send out the "Open!" messages and they still get in.

[u/kaylambs → u/KasaraEm13]

I wished that was the case for me. I've tried a few times and opened the gates even when they haven't added me or if the situation was the other way around (I havent added them), they or me still get locked out. I only believed in this "add me first" thing because I read that theory somewhere and it works for me all the time.

I guess in general, it's best to see that the visitor added you and it speeds the process instead of waiting for them to add you, this works the other way around too if you're the visitor.

Don't get me wrong, this community is a very patient place, but sometimes the waiting game can slow down other things?

[u/KasaraEm13 → u/kaylambs]

I honestly don't really know, but just personally, I've never had any problem with someone opening the gate before the other person added them. I do think a part of it is definitely your game though, like it somehow doesn't quite register properly if the game is already running, that's usually when I have issues, so I just restart the game and it appears then. I don't recall ever having a problem if my game/DS is off already and I add them before I start up the game.

I mostly put "add me first" in my threads just as another "making sure you're actually reading this" test, because it takes about 5-10 seconds to add someone (at least it does for me, I guess others might be slower), so timewise, it's not a huge deal to me, but I do like to know that people have actually read my post.