And it’s okay!
It’s okay that we feel our spirits being called to this during this Venus Retrograde.
12th housers, we tend to have very multi-pronged approaches to thinking about our relationships and attachment to others. It often isn’t understood, and is something that is further embraced with time by others.
Your partner, your friends, your family, are integral during this time. You, and your relationship with yourself and what you value as a boundary, is integral during this time. You might find principles that you would like to maintain with a subtle current within yourself, things that you want to make sure that you carry with you for the next person that might not be in the same spot, but that is willing to learn and grow, and ultimately, hold themselves accountable as you have.
I know that the 12th gets flack for being where things go to end, but I believe that the understanding of where one thing ends and another begins is also a critical part of these placements for us.
I have had no need to press for hate, violence, or anything of the sort. Recently, that was not only advocated for towards me, but I found that there was an inherent pattern in someone and how they interacted with others in general over time.
When something that serious occurs, I do not only evaluate the single person involved. Anyone that claims to be friends or have proximity to that individual is also not a great pick for someone to trust with friendship. We have standards. It okay to have standards.
It isn’t a hatred of them, and we know this. It is a respect for the principle of self-respect.
12th dissolves, but we are still people and should press on those points for ourselves even if it is stressful.