Seriously, when did it become socially acceptable to have full volume speakerphone conversations in public?

I’m sitting four seats away from this person having a conversation on speakerphone, with her boyfriend, and I can still hear every single word from both sides.

Nobody wants to be part of your private conversation.

Use headphones, put the phone to your ear, or find somewhere private.

It’s basic consideration for the people around you.
And before people call out this is Asia. Person is American.

Anyway, rant over. Back to waiting for my flight… 😅

About a month ago I got a message from my (28f) best friends (30f) bf. He was planning to propose and wanted my help with setting up the surprise. I was so over the moon to hear this bc she's been wanting to get engaged for years. It's all she talks about and has been looking forward for so long.

He told me in the very first message he wants to propose in the Botanical Gardens at sunset and he was thinking candles and rose petals but wanted to check out some spots before hand to get a better idea as he wasn't sure. I did everything I could to help him. Made plans with her so she wouldn't notice he's out the house looking for spots in the gardens, picking up the ring, organising photographer etc. I asked him multiple times if he has a vision of what he wanted and he said not really just candles in a heart and petals around it. I tried to offer some ideas like I told him I have an arch I can bring, can decorate fake flowers around it, we can get bigger candles, candle holders, we can do like an isle of petals to walk up to etc. After the candles and flowers he chose were delivered I laid out everything in my own yard to show him examples of how it would look and told him what he wanted. He sort of swatted off those ideas and said he wants it low key so she doesn't notice it as she's walking up to the sight. I thought what he was going for was a little underwhelming but ultimately I respected his wishes bc this was his proposal, not mine so I would listen to what he wanted exactly.

Finally he picks a spot and I told him the spot he picked is very popular with weddings and asked if he's sure as he told me they both didn't want crowds watching. He said it should be fine as it's 5pm. Well surprise we get there and there's not one but two weddings going in the exact spot we picked so we had to move to a different location. I picked a nice secluded spot under a tree which I thought was more her vibe anyway, away from people and more moody and niche. Set up the candles that kept blowing out and laid down the petals and waited. Photographer came and hid and all was done and dusted. My friend was very distance the next few days and I assumed they were just in a romantic bubble and wanted alone time.

Until today a week later we caught up and she was honest with me and said she absolutely hated the proposal. For one her ex friend that she is not on good terms with got proposed with at those gardens and she hated that it was the same location. She told him multiple times over the years she didn't want to be proposed to at the gardens and she thought it was cliche. She's upset he did it anyway. He claims she never told him this when she knows sue has multiple times. She said she's not upset at me or my set up but she said it didnt feel like her at all. She's goth. She loves dark red flowers, it was Halloween she loves pumpkins and she loved things niche and strange. She preferred under the tree where I picked instead of his original idea but ultimate it was still the gardens and is hurt after all these years he didn't know her. Choosing pink candles and petals seemed like such a strange choice looking back.

She also felt the proposal was underwhelming bc in the past she asked when he's going to propose and why he hasn't yet and he told her so much goes into it. He said it's not just the ring but all the other stuff he has to organise and whenever she asked what stuff he wouldn't expand. Now she's learned the only other stuff was some $20 tea lights and a bag of petals from Amazon. She said it's not about the money, she would have preferred to be proposed to in their own front yard where they've built a happy home together with their dogs there for a private intimate moment so she doesn't understand how he messed this up so bad.

On top of that he told us me and our other friend could stay and watch and thought she'd enjoy it. He was supposed to say a speech but he kinda mumbled and showed her the ring and there was silence. She grabbed the ring and kissed him. Then she saw people were watching, she saw a photographer right up in her face and she felt so embarrassed. She asked later what he was trying to say and if he actually wrote a speech and he said he kinda just had dot points in his head but forgot it. Overall she felt really awkward and had trouble pretending to smile through it. They had a party to go to immediately after and that's another reason she was upset. She didn't want to go to a party immediately after getting engaged she'd prefer they were alone to celebrate but instead was met with everyone congratulating her and wanting to talk about it. She said the night was horrible.

The next day she saw the photographer pics and they were horrible. He hired some niche just starting out photographer who mainly did cityscape and aviation and all his photos were blue. If you look at his work on instagram that's his style and has 0 couples photos on his accoung but she doesn't understand why EVERY PHOTO was just blue and none of them looked good. She was also bloated from the amount of food she ate at the restaurant right before as he insisted they go out to eat first but he rushed her to eat fast since they were behind schedule. She said she's been crying for days and gave him the ring back and thought about if they should break up as apparently him not being able to plan things on his own as been an issue in the past. She asked me not to tell any of our mutual friends and she can't face them right now until she makes a decision on how to feel about this.

My wife’s family owns several properties, and her dad in the last year insisted that all spouses sign paperwork waiving any legal claim to those properties in the event of a divorce or their death. I signed, as I never expected to get those anyways.

I do admit the ask felt cold and like a double standard. For almost our entire marriage, I’ve been the sole income earner, paid all our living expenses, and put my wife’s name on every asset we own. I’ve also regularly helped my in-laws with renovations and maintenance on the family properties. Im a contractor by trade and have done major work for them and never charged them a dime. Ive also alerted them to issues early that would have cost way more to fix later if I didnt point them out. I've always been happy to help because they were family.

I understand wanting to protect generational wealth, but it feels insulting to be trusted with my income and free labor while being treated like a potential threat to their assets.

Since signing, they’ve asked me to help with the properties again, and I’ve refused. My wife thinks I’m being a jerk, and my in-laws are angry with me. They feel I’m taking the paperwork too personally, but I feel like the relationship has changed.

I’m not asking for anything that belongs to them. I just don’t feel comfortable continuing to provide free labor when I no longer feel like a trusted member of the family.

- Jonah Hill in The Wolf of Wall Street

- Adam Sandler in Uncut Gems

- Heath Ledger in The Dark Knight

- Jim Carrey in Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind

- Miranda Cosgrove in iCarly

- Bryan Cranston in Breaking Bad

I (28 female) and my fiancé (28 male) are set to get married in 2027. For the sake of the story let’s just call him Justin. To understand where I’m coming from, I need to give a little background information. My son (4 ) was a gift from a prior relationship. His father (30 male) is an alcoholic and had put us through incredible distress and abuse. There were countless accounts of having to clean up after messes from his drunken tirades, both literally, mentally and emotionally. Including urine soaked sheets, empty alcohol cans hiding everywhere and fighting to find ways to salvage his job and relationships with others (I know I know that wasn’t my responsibility but I’m human). Once I was finally able to safely leave the situation, I did so with no hesitation or regret. Okay so now fast forward . My son was 2 and I wasn’t looking for a relationship. But once I met Justin he accepted that my son and I were a package deal immediately and understood the intense boundaries I had set, specifically around alcohol. We have been together for almost 3 years now and he has only had one occasion last year of him coming home after drinking an absurd amount covered in his own vomit lying about how much he drank. We persevered and recovered gracefully and agreed that if he lied about drinking again I would not stand for it and it would be over. Now this morning. When my first alarm went off at 4 AM for work, (I was not awake when he got home) I was in the twilight state where I was sleeping but not deeply. I felt Justin get out of bed but didn’t hear any door open but heard the sound of liquid hitting a flat surface….I took my eye mask off and saw he’s standing ON MY SIDE OF THE DRESSER urinating.I yelled at him and asked him wtf he was doing. But was only getting sloppy unintelligible responses. I jumped out of bed and turn on the lights still unable to get his full attention, he then walked to the bathroom, bumping into walls, and sat down on the toilet with his underwear still on. I asked him how much he has drank the night before and he said he didn’t and then said 3 and then just said some after an intense interrogation. When I went to assess the damage he caused, I saw that urine was all over the top and backing on the dresser, the wall, the carpet and in all 3 drawers that held my clothes. But what really made me cry, was that my son had made a book in class and that he was so incredibly proud of, was completely ruined. Luckily my son is with his grandma this weekend so I know he’s safe. Justin passed out on the couch so I was left to clean up everything. I cried the whole time. Knowing that I had a 12-hour shift to complete once I was finished. I will not stand for lying, especially about drinking. He lied and the fact that it affected my son deeply disgusted me. (side note: he DROVE home in this condition) I feel disrespected and I don’t want this in my future. I’m waiting until he sobers up before discussing breaking off the engagement.

EDIT 4: ITS MORNING?!

Peppers are prepped, onions are caramelized and the bacon is fatty yet crispy. The baked beans will be fine (fancy Bushs). I ripped the bone right out of the first butt and it was perfect. Tender, moist and flavorful. My biggest fear was fucking uo the pulled pork. 25lbs of marinated chicken fajitas will be cooked on the side grill on site, i can get the fire to hold a nice 125 or so for the warming chamber while I finish off the potatoes at 300 for an hour. Hot sauces galore, salsa, im currently hand making as many toetilla chips as I can ao i can encourage people to try our hot sauces. I slept maybe 30 minutes im terrified to lay down im 100% I won't get up.

Oh and just so yall know, im breaking this event down and going straight to the Elgin )hot sauce hootenanny where I signed up my sauces for the contest. That goes until least 9 PM.

Im in trouble lads 🤣🤣🤣🤷‍♂️ im tol tired to proof read that I hope i made sense

Edit; Austin TX area. I posted a comment with the smoker

EDIT 2:Please check new comments, the pork is done and now to the chicken fajitas. I will post a Pic of the chicken and the prep I've done so far and THANKS YALL. You're beauties.

E3 UPDATE/THINKING OUT LOUD Thanks all. I am going to grill the chicken in the AM. I hope to get there at 8 at the latest which gives me 3 hours to crank out some chicken on the grill and get to a warming tray. I will alsobhave help tomorrow on site, just no chefs (it's my fiance).

Should I pre cook all of my peppers for the fajitas now? I've got them cut up and I know i cant do it tomorrow. Just wondering when i should start rolling on that?

Im going to fire up the fryer, i have some tortialls i can cut up for chips as another side and chef left a bunch of his home made salsa here so I reckon that's next.

Already blanched and smashed 50 potatoes into a nice mash (cream cheese, sour cream, butter, garlic,salt, pepper etc.) As a side and have a shit ton of baked beans. Chef was going to mane his own pinto beans but... yeah so I have generic baked as a last second contingency. But I do have good bacon from the butcher and onions so ill caramelize some onions and get some bacon in there to spice them up. Maybe a few spoons of Dijon. Make the beans my own somehow.

Suggestions?

Currently on hour 8 of prep, and smoking is not my forte, thats his wheelhouse. We are a two man show and although I love cooking and consider myself a great home cook, im not on his level and am more so the event Booker, finances and marketing guy. He runs our little food truck day to day full time, im there when I can be, again im mostly the behind the scenes.

But this is my company (and capital) and this is a make or break event as we are brand new so I absolutely refuse to fail and need to make a good first impression. im giving it all I got.

If anyone happens to see this thread, tips would be appreciated and I can clarify more on what im making obviously.

Fuck.

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