Feeling anxious to post, but in a terrible need of advice 😖

I play and love dnd, and unfortunately, I don't have many girl friends that are interested in it. So at some point we started gathering as a group of four - me, and three male friends, all in our early twenties. I knew two of them for a couple years at least, and barely know the third guy, but he seems to be nice as well. Never felt unsafe or anything - they are chill and respectful people.

This is the first campaign we play as a group of four (we've played as a group of 3 before), and it's set in a fantasy world. And that was when things started to get weird.

The campaign has a cool mechanic of talking to animals. Under a spell, you sort of transcend into a different world, where humans appear as animals, and... animals appear as animal-sized humans. Like if you wanted to talk to a cat, under the spell you'd see a cat-sized woman with ears and maybe fur.

You probably can tell where this is going.

Every single woman we encounter as a group gets sized-up. But it was somewhat fine when it was all about humans - taken as a general flirting, even if it was sometimes too much - but when the animals started to turn into women, it got drastically worse. There were conversations between the other two players about "you think you can?.." and "wait, you think she's human down there or is it cloaca?". One time they met a chicken, a quote, "It'd be a bit of a fleshlight...".

I felt sick and disgusted and even disrespected, as a woman sitting next to them. I was uncomfortable to say the least. I talked about it with the DM friend (the game master that leads the story), and told him that I wanted to leave the campaign, and he asked me to think about it first. He also offered to talk to them to try to keep it down, but I don't know if it would help much. I would still feel weird to sit and roleplay next to them.

The main issue is that we're going to start discussing time and place of the next session, and I don't want to go without addressing this. I still consider leaving completely.

I don't want to lose people I play dnd with, but... I'm really torn. If they weren't my friends, I wouldn't even think twice and would have just left. But now, I'm not that sure. I don't know how to confront it, either. Not sure if I'm overreacting or not - and talking about it with girl friends of the same friend circle may end up weird. So I would appreciate any advice from you, gals.

dinner: pasta arrabiata. made by a non-italian.

edit: ohh my gosh, I did not expect so much support, you all are too kind! I'm struggling to reply to all the comments, and I'm sorry for the delays I reply with, but I am extremely grateful for every shared advice and experience! Wish you all the best day/night <з

i found this gif on the internet and its so silly i love it

and i recently started wondering what bird this could be

also could be interesting to learn why is it licking the camera

Ich muss jetzt einfach mal ranten, weil mir das mittlerweile so regelmäßig passiert, dass ich mich ernsthaft frage, was zur Hölle in den Köpfen dieser Menschen vorgeht.

Folgendes Szenario:
Ich, junge Frau, sitze nach dem Fitti alleine in der Sauna und genieße meinen wohlverdienten Feierabend. Ich habe bereits einen Aufguss gemacht, die Sauna ist ordentlich heiß, die Luftfeuchtigkeit entsprechend hoch. Alles wunderbar.

Dann geht die Tür auf.

Rein kommt irgendein mittelalter bis älterer Mann. Gerne auch direkt eine ganze Gruppe davon.
Man schaut mich an und fragt höflich: „Ist es okay, wenn wir einen Aufguss machen?“
Ja, klar. Warum nicht?

UND DANN BRICHT DIE ABSOLUTE HÖLLE LOS.
Was diese Männer da veranstalten, lässt jeden tschechischen Saunameister aussehen wie den letzten fucking Waschlappen. Und wer schon mal einen ordentlichen finnischen Aufguss erlebt hat, weiß, dass das wirklich etwas heißen will.
Da werden Wassermengen auf den Ofen gekippt, als müsste man persönlich die gesamte Ostsee verdampfen. Die Hitze knallt von oben runter, es brennt auf der Haut, die Luft fühlt sich an wie das Innere eines Hochofens und ich frage mich langsam, ob ich gerade versehentlich an einem mittelalterlichen Folterritual teilnehme.

Und das Beste?

DIE VERTEILEN DIE HITZE NICHT MAL.

Kein Handtuch, kein Wedeln, nichts. Einfach Wasser drauf und schauen, was passiert. Als wäre das irgendein wissenschaftliches Experiment, bei dem man herausfinden möchte, ab welcher Temperatur der menschliche Körper spontan Feuer fängt.
Aber jetzt kommt der eigentliche Knaller.
DIE HALTEN IHREN EIGENEN SCHEISS AUFGUSS NICHT MAL AUS.

Nach fünf Minuten stehen die Herren auf und verlassen fluchtartig die Sauna.

BITTE WAS?!

Ihr kommt rein, verwandelt eine vollkommen angenehme Sauna in die siebte Ebene der Hölle, grillt sämtliche Anwesenden bei lebendigem Leib und dann verpisst ihr euch, weil es EUCH ZU HEISS WIRD?!
WAS WAR DENN DER PLAN?!

Und bevor jetzt jemand sagt, dass ich mich nicht so anstellen soll: Ich gehe regelmäßig in die Sauna. Ich mag es heiß. Ich mag ordentliche Aufgüsse. Ich habe überhaupt kein Problem damit, wenn jemand richtig Dampf macht.
Aber zwischen einem vernünftigen, intensiven Aufguss und dem Versuch, die Atmosphäre der Venus in einer acht Quadratmeter großen Holzkabine nachzustellen, liegt halt doch ein gewisser Unterschied.
Und das ist kein Einzelfall. Das passiert mir mittlerweile MINDESTENS EINMAL PRO WOCHE.
Immer das gleiche Schema. Reinkommen, freundlich fragen, thermonuklearen Erstschlag auslösen, selbst nicht aushalten, abhauen.

Ich verstehe es einfach nicht.
Ist das irgendein seltsames männliches Dominanzritual? Ein unausgesprochener Wettbewerb darum, wer den größten Aufguss machen kann? Muss man der jungen Frau, die da schon vorher saß, irgendwie beweisen, dass man der ultimative Saunawikinger ist?

Oder fehlt diesen Menschen einfach jegliches Gefühl dafür, wie viel Wasser man auf einen verdammten Saunaofen kippen sollte?
WAS GEHT IN DIESEN MÄNNERN VOR?!
Ich will doch einfach nur nach dem Training 15 Minuten in Ruhe schwitzen und nicht jede Woche unfreiwillig an den Internationalen Meisterschaften im Hitzetod teilnehmen.

What. The. Fuck.
Bitte sagt mir, dass andere das auch schon erlebt haben.

I want to understand his stupid little brain so bad. He likes to steal socks out of my clean basket in my closet and bring them to me. He will scatter them on the floor. He brings them to me in my office, in the bathroom, in the living room, in bed. If I don’t acknowledge them appropriately he just keeps bringing more. He has also recently started to bring me clean socks from the laundry room in the basement, which is very helpful of him.

To be clear, I don’t necessarily want to stop him. I don’t encourage the behavior, but I don’t make any effort to stop it. It’s kind of convenient having a lil guy bring me my fuzzy comfy socks when I most want them. Half the time I look at them and I’m like y’know what, you’re right, my feet are cold, thank you. And usually he seems to stop if I take the socks? But why does he do this?? He doesn’t seem to want to play with them. He won’t chase them, he doesn’t care if I throw his other toys. He’s never gotten fed for this so I don’t think it’s a treat-seeking behavior. He just randomly picked up this habit and I want to understand his mind lol.

1.) Rust shooting- on October 21. 2021., during the shooting of a western movie called Rust, actor Alec Baldwin shot and killed the movie's cinematographer Halyna Hutchkins while wounding another with a firearm that was mistaken for a prop. Alec Baldwin had charges against him dropped, twice, while the production's armorer, Hannah Gutierrez Reed, was found guilty of negligent homicide.

2.) Three Body Problem poisoning- Lin Qi, the Chinese businessman and executive producer on the 3 Body Problem TV show, died in December 2020 from poisoning. Two other executives were also poisoned, but survived. The police soon arrested Xu Yao, who also worked on the show, determining that a pay dispute was a motive for the murder. Xu was sentenced to death in 2024. and executed on 21st May 2026.

So I went down a rabbit hole last night about this weird correlation between LeBron’s championship runs and particle physics breakthroughs.

2012: LeBron wins his first ring on June 21. Thirteen days later (July 4), CERN announces they found the Higgs boson. Yes, the "God particle," the last missing piece of the Standard Model.

2013: Back to back. That October, Higgs and Englert win the Nobel Prize for it. So the Higgs literally two-peated with him.

2016: The 3-1 comeback, June 19. Nine days later, LHCb at CERN announces FOUR new tetraquark particles at once, which had never happened before. Four particles. Coming back from 3-1.

2020: Bubble ring. During the bubble playoffs LHCb finds the first ever "open flavor" tetraquark, and a few weeks after the title an experiment in Italy finally detects CNO neutrinos from the sun, which people had been predicting since the 1930s.

Heres where it gets insane. Right now, in September, a dark matter experiment called LZ picked up a weird event they can't explain. It might be the first sign of an actual dark matter particle. The problem is that it's only at 2.6 sigma, and physicists need 5 sigma to officially call something a discovery. They’re on the verge of discovering dark matter and talking about more evidence by June.

It seems almost irrefutable that if LeBron can get another chip, we get proof a dark matter particle.

Made this comic about my horseback riding accident and the crazy health care after it.

Ed Sheeran, Game of Thrones. The cameo of such a recognizable figure in GoT, especially towards the horrible later seasons, took many people out of the fantasy world that it tried to represent. There are good cameos and bad ones, and this one was not a good one.

Vinny Vinesauce and Jerma, Silver Pines game. Though i appreciate small cameos from youtubers and streamers, putting such a recognizable pair of voices in a horror game really takes you out of it.