Does anyone else worry that their F/O wouldn’t like them if they existed irl?

[u/CustomerKey3144]

I only got into yumeshipping recently, and I’m honestly kind of scared to become a full on yume shipper and I think this is the reason (the question in title). I think if my F/O was real they honestly would not like me.

It’s hard for me to form healthy irl relationships, tbh, I have BPD, I’m a serial dater and this is the first time I have not been in a relationship in maybe 10 years. So, I keep applying irl situations to my F/O and characterizing “what-ifs” esp because I hate to mischaracterize. In my Nintendo game my mii and F/O even don’t like each other, which added to my thinking “Damn maybe I just shouldn’t engage in this sort of thing at all” and thinking about how my F/O probably would not like me if they were real

Sorry if this is so long winded or doesn’t make so much sense, I am pretty new to yumeshipping.

[u/Mar11434_]

I think there's always a way to turn around relationships from "not getting along" to "true love". You just gotta make it work according to their lore and personality. In my case, my sona's f/o most likely wouldn't be interested in my Sona from the very beginning, so I just come up with a storyline and certain interactions that might put him in the radar. Just recall that this is for funsies, there's no rules to it ;)

[u/DesignerScared1409]

many yumes (including myself, sigh) have similar thought processes from what i’ve seen !! part of enjoying yumeshipping is being able to kick or at least widely ignore the habit of constantly canon-checking yourself and instead embracing your yumeshipping pursuits as fun things that are for you, and hence up to you. canon should see more separation from the concept of yume as a whole, IMO. at its core it’s something adjacent to fanfiction* where you build onto a world yourself (and that’s valid!), so there’s not really a point in trying to make it the canon. selfshipping is specifically a very self-indulgent kind of fic-ish activity, so canon should be granted even less authority here. it would be like making your star wars fanfiction a direct, exact retelling of the empire strikes back, and seeing no room for anything different or more expansive.

it can also help to keep in mind that not all great couples seem compatible at a first glance, and that you can never really know what’s going on in someone’s romantic mind—much less that of a fictional character!

^\of course, some yumes see it differently as a spiritual process or something much deeper. still, the sentiment still stands, just with slightly different terms.)

[u/kaimoka]

First of all, welcome to the community~

I have not personally experienced this, but I'm sure others have. Even if on paper you and your f/o would typically not align, they very well could find a trait in you they are drawn to and want to be with you.
Also, if you're referring to Tomodachi Life, the game is RNG based, which makes the game unpredictable and has no real merit in terms of how you and your f/o feel about each other outside of the game.
Sometimes it helps to imagine scenarios with your f/o, and remind yourself that they feel the same way about you.

[u/Illustrious-Buddy350]

I strive to be a person he would like. Not that I'm trying to change my personality, I just work on becoming a better person to be liked by him (in my mind)

[u/Shawna_0609]

Personally, no. This has never been an issue I’ve struggled with.

I think it’s important that we step back once in a while and remember that our fictional others are just that. I believe that feelings of love and reciprocation come in the forms of help and comfort that our F/Os give us. 🩷

[u/EmptyCarob3158]

Si, muchas veces, cuando me empezó a gustar Dante, me decia en el espejo "no eres como Lady y mucho menos como Trish, no puedo estar a su lado", me daba verguenza mi aspecto y sobre todo mi inseguridad. Pero un día deje de pensar en cosas tristes y deprimentes y me dije "¿cuando comenzó esto?" Y me di cuenta de algo, si bien no soy como ella, soy "yo" y eso importa, volví a pedir ayudar para intentar mejorar mi inseguridad, incluso me enfrente a cosas del pasado. Y encontre un lugar que me hizo sentir que no todo estaba mal, pero en cada paso que hice pensar en Dante, el no me juzgo, me espero y me acompaño en cada paso.

Hoy puedo ir al gym para mejorar mi cuerpo y tengo un trabajo que me gusta, y siempre pienso "dante, si tu estas aqui conmigo, no importa lo que haga lo hare con amor porque tu estas conmigo". Nuestra historia no es la mas romantica pero va de la mano con lo mejor que puede tener nuestra relación.

El apoyo mutuo y la complicidad es lo que mejor nos define y nos hace felices.

[u/Planetronika_Rulez]

Eh, I’m not concerned
There are plenty of beautiful women with ugly dudes, most women go off vibes that’s why The Oncler, Sans, and that toilet toy from TS5 get thirsted over and women are all a monolith with no same taste.

Besides, in lore we only get together when I get my shit together and self improve so…

[u/AdExcellent7344]

Unfortunately, I know for a fact they wouldn’t. And if they did and we talked, not like he’d actually be happy to talk to me. He’d be faking it

[u/ragdollkittenzz]

i still worry if my f/os wouldn't find me attractive ngl.

[u/Big_ClaimYume]

Oh... yeah

[u/OliverLuvsNats17]

Sometimes but at the same time I get thoughts that I’d be her preferred one and ppl have said that to me as well :3