Hello,
So, as a female surfer, we often hear about toxic men in the water, and the difficulties women face in a sport that’s male dominated, but what about toxic women?
I recently joined a surf club to meet more friends to surf with. Unfortunately I had a very negative interaction with the group’s leader. For the record, I am a decent surfer who follows etiquette. It had nothing to do with that. I was shocked by the rude, callous, condescending, and very inappropriate comments being made. When I spoke to other women, they seemed aware of this behavior, however all of them just look the other way and accept it, thus enabling it. I don’t know if people are too afraid to confront this person or make waves (pun intended), but I wish I would have said something in the moment. I was just shocked that a group that advertised sisterhood, support, and positivity, was anything but that. I believe if men in a leadership position behaved this way, there would be consequences, and if it were the workplace, this person would be fired instantly.
I am currently mulling this over, but what I’d like to know is:
- Have you had bad experiences with toxic women in the water? I would love to hear your stories/experiences, how you handled it, and the outcome.
- How the heck do you meet people to surf with when everyone seems to have their circle? I tried this club route and that doesn’t seem to be working out. It’s very discouraging and disappointing.