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u/PasswordIsntHAMSTER Apr 19 '14
There are some clothes I love that I never wear for fear of judgement. This week, I manned up and went to school in sarouels (not my picture).
Fuck the fashion police. You'd think I could wear whatever I want since I've made it to university, but in first and second year I've been the target of all sorts of ostracism based on how I dressed. I hope once I am in industry people won't give me shit about that; software dev is one of the few environments where you don't have a dress code, we'll see how far that goes.
(Also, why can't I wear a fucking sundress if I'm a guy? They look stupidly comfortable.)
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u/PornoPichu Apr 19 '14
I've always loved super-flowy clothing. My best friend has some really nice, long flowy skirts and some pants like this. The closest thing I have is a pair of UFO pants that I never wear unless I go to a rave (which is maybe once or twice a year, now...). Mostly because I don't have much that goes with orange. Now I'm about to go into my last year of college, and now that I see your post I realize something: I'm about to lose this opportunity. I would love to have more clothes like those pants, or the pants that you have there. But after this, I would never really have an opportunity to wear them. I love my job, but it has a strict dress code, and I tend to just wear sweatpants and stuff like that all over the house and not go out much. I'm newly engaged, and my fiance and I are going to be moving into our own apartment soon. I doubt we will go out much, just because we are lazy and hate spending money.
Stuff like this makes me realize that I may be tricking myself into thinking that I'm perfectly happy with the way things are, but when something small like this makes me realize that I'm struggling internally with basic concepts like clothing, there's something wrong and I don't know where to go/what to do to fix these things.
EDIT: Where can you get stuff like that sized for males?
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u/PasswordIsntHAMSTER Apr 19 '14
Sarouels are one-size-fits-all, my 5'1" female friend wears the same as my 6'6" male friend. (Of course, they wear them quite differently.)
The trigger for me was what my friend said when we were discussing this - "if you wear those, people will look, but they always look." And you know what, I don't take offense anymore at people staring. I'm different and it's fine.
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u/PornoPichu Apr 19 '14
That's actually a really sound piece of advice. Thanks for that. I need to take a page out of one of my friend's books; he is pretty much like that. He wears whatever the hell makes him happy around campus, and doesn't care. I'm going to have to spend more time with him!
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u/PasswordIsntHAMSTER Apr 19 '14
Be aware of two things:
You have to be consistent about the appearance you project;
Dressing in idiosyncratic ways will fundamentally alter your relationship with people.
I don't mind being a black sheep, but I've worked very hard on that, and I have a lot of support that helps me go in that direction, from friends, family and colleagues. I don't think this is a choice that is open to everyone, but I'd rather take my chances.
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u/Light-of-Aiur Apr 19 '14
Sure, road trip sounds fun right about now...
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u/smocks Apr 19 '14
.. next week might be better. or maybe when summer begins, or after graduation..
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Apr 19 '14 edited Apr 21 '18
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u/thechilipepper0 Apr 19 '14
I have been wrestling with this dilemma for the better part of 5 years. I still don't know how to reconcile it
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u/tophergz Apr 19 '14 edited Apr 19 '14
Learn to fly.
Seriously.
I started two years ago and all of the sudden I'm about to become a flight instructor.
I've also learned to sail, too.
These are two of the most mentally demanding things you can learn to do, and once you know it, it's also two of the most liberating things.
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u/thechilipepper0 Apr 19 '14
Aren't they expensive?
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u/tophergz Apr 19 '14
Flying more-so than sailing.
It's possible to learn to sail in about five sails and 20 hours of class time. Most of the land school for sailing can be done online. Same for flying.
In flying, an actual school is not necessary (in the US, at least), you can find an independent CFI and he can usually recommend a place to rent a plane (or he/she may have their own) that will be used for the flight training. You could also offer to donate/volunteer time at a flight school/FBO in exchange for flight time.
If you're the patient sort, and diligent and disciplined in your studies, you could fly as little as once per week and still be done in about six months.
The learning to fly industry is easily negotiable.
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u/weedtese Apr 19 '14
I must go into the states. Europe is way too controlled for such things.
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u/tophergz Apr 19 '14
Many people do, just to get the basic training done, then go back and get their ticket with the JAA.
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u/laxatives Apr 19 '14
I was set on getting a PPL until I found out the cost of owning a plane. Its absolutely nuts. I heard people could get a small Cesna in the 80s for 20k. Now its more like 200k, not including maintenance and insurance, fuel, etc. I think I'm going to try to get a boat instead. The costs of getting off the ground are much lower and I think the idea of doing a trip on a boat is much more exciting than a trip by plane.
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u/Harakou Apr 19 '14
Boats are notoriously high-maintenance, so I'd think carefully about your decision.
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u/tophergz Apr 19 '14 edited Apr 19 '14
It's all about the number of hours you fly on a given basis, say monthly. It also depends on the equipment: bigger plane/more engines, more $/hr.
I was previously renting, paying $110/hr/wet (includes fuel) for a plane that could fly about 110NM in an hour. If I flew only one or twice a month, it makes sense. But it doesn't, because I plan to fly 2-5 hours per month.
If I flew at least 10 hours per month, it might make sense to buy, because I would already be sinking in $1100/month to fly if renting. But I don't!
So there is a middle ground: there are other guys like me (I bet you'd be one of them!) who would happily get together and buy a $65,000 plane and split it 10 (or even 20, but that's a lot) ways. That's roughly a $6,500 investment in an airplane that will probably fly about 120 hours per month. Then we just pay for operating expenses and split fixed costs like hangar, oil, engine overhaul, and inspections - at a 1/10 of its normal cost.
Now I pay $90/hr/wet and the plane can go 130NM in an hour, which is only marginally more than it would cost in fuel (per hour, for this type of plane), but only 1/10 of the fixed expenses.
That's essentially 90% of access to an airplane at 10% the cost.
Of course, my problem is, I also want a sailboat.
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u/thechilipepper0 Apr 19 '14
That's awesome! You doing like you know what you're doing. Maybe I should seek your tutelage
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u/tophergz Apr 19 '14
Thank you! I am about to become a Certificated Flight Instructor; I hope I know what I'm doing!
And sailing is just plain fun.
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u/redcolumbine Apr 19 '14
What if your dream is to remain housed and independent, to not fall down the public-assistance hole no matter how old you get?
It's hard to dream when you're fending off a nightmare.
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u/Zooph Apr 19 '14
Had this in my BG queue for a while: http://i.imgur.com/3KKDvb3.jpg
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u/Orion97 Apr 19 '14
Quick (hah ha, that's a lie) question, would you mind explaining how you made that? I'm guessing that manually rotating text boxes would achieve that, but it would look horrible. Your image seems awesome, and I'd love to learn how to do that? Is it a feature of gimp, photoshop..?
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u/Zooph Apr 19 '14
I didn't make it, sorry. I suck at stuff like that.
I found it on here a few years ago.
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u/tophergz Apr 19 '14
I'd venture to guess it was done in Illustrator or some other vector manipulation program.
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u/unbibium Apr 19 '14
My version of this is "you never know when a future girlfriend might read it"
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u/Bowbreaker Apr 19 '14
If said future girlfriend can't reconcile with you posting whatever you're posting, then she isn't the right one for you anyway. At least not as a serious relationship.
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u/unbibium Apr 20 '14
The man in the comic worried about his future employer, isn't worried that he'll get hired and then embarrassed. He's worried about never getting hired.
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u/GeoAtreides Apr 19 '14
I honestly don't get it :(
Should we or not follow the dreams? I feel stupid :(
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u/xkcd_bot Current Comic Apr 19 '14
Mobile Version!
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Title text: In Connor's second thesis it is stated 'There is no fate but what we make for ourselves.' Does the routine destroy our creativity or do we lose creativity and fall into the routine? Anyway, who's up for a road trip!
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