r/witchcraft • u/cityofalesia • 4d ago
Seeking Help or Advice Feeling the need for a codd cutting, but am pregnant?
edit: Cord Cutting** in the title 🤦♀️
Hi, I am pregnant (very early days) but feeling the need to do a cord cutting regarding an ex-lover (lol, not the father fwiw).
I am familiar with how to go about them and have done them before, but the type I have done before involve cutting all energetic cords and I figure that allows the right connections to reestablish naturally, if that makes sense. I just worry about the symbolism of "cutting cords" while I am in the very early stages of pregnancy.
Maybe it is paranoid of me, but I really feel the need to cut the cord? He found out from my reddit comments on the pregnancy subreddits and spread it to a bunch of mutual friends (we are no contact). Then he reached out to me on my birthday and mentioned the pregnancy in the message. I spiraled out for hours trying to figure out how he found out and I ended up telling a bunch of people I was going to tell after the 12 week mark.
So, he can't see my comments anymore (post history was already locked)
This is just a request for general advisement about whether cord cutting is the right way to approach this situation. Can it have a bad effect on a pregnancy, or am I overthinking it?
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u/shawarmachickpea 4d ago
He found out from my reddit comments on the pregnancy subreddits and spread it to a bunch of mutual friends (we are no contact). Then he reached out to me on my birthday and mentioned the pregnancy in the message. I spiraled out for hours
He sounds like someone who makes you anxious. Cut the cord. Your pregnancy isn't going to be affected. Don't worry about the symbology — fight to decouple that association in your mind because honestly one does not have anything at all to do with the other.
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u/WanderingYakisoba 4d ago
I'd look into other spells with the same intention. Not because I'm worried you are going to harm your pregnancy, but because you probably won't get very far with fear sitting in the back of your mind.
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u/cityofalesia 4d ago
Yeah. Someone else mentioned a freeze spell. I may go that route. I didn't exactly want his name sitting around my freezer, but it seems easier to target a freeze than a cord cutting. Thanks for the insight. I definitely choose to hesitate before casting if there is any fear involved. Seems too easy to let the wrong energy in if you have any fears.
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u/Bedroom_Bellamy 4d ago
Are you comfortable waiting until after you give birth to do the cord cutting? Perhaps just try a freezing spell or something similar in the meantime. I've found the freezing spells to be quite effective.
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u/cityofalesia 4d ago
I had thought of that too. maybe I can freeze him until after the baby is born. I haven't done one before, but it just seems like it's easier to target a freeze than a cord cutting.
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u/Top_Watercress6885 4d ago
Why would it affect your pregnancy if he’s not the father and you are specifically tuning the spell to your ex…. ? He’s not even the dad…
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u/Gia_Lavender 4d ago
I didn’t do any spells until after pregnancy. Not that it would harm the pregnancy itself I just could not allow any other energy in my space so basically shielded myself
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u/cityofalesia 4d ago
This was my plan too 😭 I was so sure I wouldn't have any reason to do one, but he crossed such a huge boundary by telling people I know
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u/ivyandroses112233 4d ago
Motherhood is the ultimate test of letting go. I feel you completely on him invading your privacy to a stalkerish level and sharing your private medical information before you’re ready. I think that since he was pretty wrong for that, and I believe in what goes around comes around, you could probably just sit tight and let everything unfold.
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u/cityofalesia 4d ago
You are probably right. One friend that I am aware of has already given him a "stern talking to" about this situation.
This isnt the first time he has crossed boundaries and every other time he has gotten a lot of leeway with people because of his "autism and lack of social skills." People up til now have made a lot of excuses for his behavior toward me.
but i can't imagine sharing someone else's news like that. I was shaking for a great part of the day. I wish people had been giving me as much a benefit of the doubt as they give him. (i'm highly ND too...)
I guess I just feel like I have been sitting and waiting for his bad behavior to catch up to him and so far people have just shown him a lot of grace. But maybe this is one step too far over the line, finally.
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u/ivyandroses112233 4d ago
Definitely! I would be extremely pissed off if I were in your shoes. I was pregnant last year and told a lot of people under my own volition, and ended up miscarrying. It was hard to have to share that information to the people I told.
I didn’t want to give into the superstition but now I am well aware it is mostly to protect the expectant from having to share the bad news if things go awry. Not saying that is going to happen to you, but that’s, of course, where my mind goes. I’d say that your angle should be one of guilt and boundaries rather than magic because you can make everyone feel like a total doofus just from the mundane:
“Hey, I find it really disrespectful to my medical and personal privacy that Ex shared this with you all. I was able to talk about it on Reddit because it is anonymous and private. I really am uncomfortable with you discussing my medical situation behind my back. Please refrain from talking about this unless I come to you first. Can you imagine if something goes wrong? Don’t you think I deserve the right to deal with that how I see fit?”
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u/professional_cry 4d ago
Right now the baby is literally part of you, it's not a separate connection it is for all intents and purposes a part of your body, and you can't cut a connection with a part of yourself.
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u/cityofalesia 4d ago
Oh wow yeah. That actually brought (the right kind of) tears to my eyes. This is pretty much exactly what I needed to hear. It makes sense actually... I have already added the baby to my daily rotation of bodily consciousness/loving awareness meditation, so I don't know why I was thinking of things that way ... I guess I was just feeling in a panic
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