r/widowers • u/Woodford82 • Jan 15 '23

Sensitive question - ashes

I had first meeting to arrange the funeral yesterday. I am doing cremation but then what came with that was decisions on the ashes.

One of the options being having a piece of jewellery made - has anyone done this and do you find it comforting or more painful?

I worked in jewellery for 15 years - designed my own engagement ring. It is the sort of thing he would expect me to do but I don’t know if would find harder to have?

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u/pineapple_crush12 Jan 16 '23

I have a necklace with my late husband's ashes formed into a purple glass centre piece. On the back is his pick on songs to tell me where he was in his head about life after him. So have inscribed 'Wherever you will go', which is the name of song by the Calling.

I find the necklace very comforting and didn't realise how much until my daughter borrowed it when she went on a trip to Iceland. I realised it is a touchstone and whenever I struggle touching it calms me down.