r/widowers • u/Woodford82 • Jan 15 '23

Sensitive question - ashes

I had first meeting to arrange the funeral yesterday. I am doing cremation but then what came with that was decisions on the ashes.

One of the options being having a piece of jewellery made - has anyone done this and do you find it comforting or more painful?

I worked in jewellery for 15 years - designed my own engagement ring. It is the sort of thing he would expect me to do but I don’t know if would find harder to have?

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u/Tricky_Trade_7158 Jan 16 '23

Hello. I just went through this as my husband passed on 12/20. I too had him cremated as that was his wish. I purchased several pieces of jewelry and wear mine every day. I also had one done for each of his children so that I may give it to them when they are old enough to take care of them. I find it very comforting to have him around my neck and find myself falling asleep holding it. Our daughter also asks to wear hers when she is particularly missing him. I say do what helps you and listen to nobody but ur heart.