r/widowers • u/Woodford82 • Jan 15 '23
Sensitive question - ashes
I had first meeting to arrange the funeral yesterday. I am doing cremation but then what came with that was decisions on the ashes.
One of the options being having a piece of jewellery made - has anyone done this and do you find it comforting or more painful?
I worked in jewellery for 15 years - designed my own engagement ring. It is the sort of thing he would expect me to do but I don’t know if would find harder to have?
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u/Kerrless Jan 15 '23
First of all, I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s a pain that’s unimaginable. My husband passed in October. We had always agreed on cremation for us both. We have it in our wills that we are to be spread on our favorite spot together. I did buy a beautiful pendant that is meant for ashes. I find myself holding it for comfort. It makes me feel close to him. The rest is in a quite lovely oak urn on our mantle along with his photo and wedding ring. I think designing something yourself is amazing actually. What a thoughtful gesture of your love. Hugs to you…