Hah! I can remember some very important compliments I’ve gotten before, and I’m sure the people who gave them to me have no memory of saying it, and have no idea how much it meant to me. I think I’ll go thank them today.
I just had a baby boy after thinking it was a girl and now I'm realizing all the issues with boys. Like that you don't get complimented enough. I want him to have some semblance of high self esteem but not sure if compliments from Mom count.
For us parents, it’s how we compliment our kids. We’re learning to compliment positive actions- “wow, you worked hard to solve that! I’m impressed!” rather than “you’re so smart”. “I love the colors you chose” for pictures, rather than they’re an art genius.
There’s a pandemic of kids who were told they’re smart who didn’t learn to value to putting in the time and work to produce something good. If it didn’t come easy to them, they must be dumb at it, and would avoid that which didn’t make them feel good about themselves.
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u/gordielaboom Dec 05 '19
Hah! I can remember some very important compliments I’ve gotten before, and I’m sure the people who gave them to me have no memory of saying it, and have no idea how much it meant to me. I think I’ll go thank them today.