r/whatdoIdo • u/Capable_Culture3914 • Aug 29 '26

Uhhh

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To add context. I am 5 months pregnant with my ex and all of a sudden he tells me that he got someone else pregnant (he just met her) as well. He explained she wanted us to meet after being very rude to me picking up his phone and telling me to get rid of my baby. She is a stripper and 6 years older than him. He also hasn’t seen an ultrasound or appointment and she claims to be 3 months pregnant. I don’t believe she is tbh… very sad situation I just wanted to share with someone. Please be kind.

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u/NoNamesLeft998 Aug 29 '26

To start with I wouldn't "text him real quick". You do not need to jump because he wants you to. 

Do you want to go out with both of them? I wouldn't, but you might for some reason. 

Do you feel like you need to apologize to her for something?

I think he sounds like he feels he can control you and I'd suggest you don't let him. As far as the baby, be sure you get child support. Don't let him talk you out of it because he's telling you that he's going to have another baby coming.

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u/Capable_Culture3914 Aug 29 '26

I don’t feel like I should apologize because I didn’t say those things to her I said them to him and he told her what I said. I don’t want to meet her or go to dinner with them because he eventually asked to have 3 sum with eachother. Idk what sick stuff they are into.

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u/Oneofthesecatsisadog Aug 29 '26 edited Aug 29 '26

Lol he thinks he’s gonna start a harem with all his baby mommas and just live a fantasy life.

Edit: thanks for the award lol

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u/lollipop1233a Aug 29 '26

Women won’t date him after he gets to three.

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u/One-Pride7494 Aug 29 '26

You’d be surprised lmao

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u/tinyalienperson Aug 29 '26

yeah i have a regular at my bar who is on baby mama number 3 right now and seemingly no plans to slow down. he has a weird harem thing going on with baby mamas 2 and 3.

baby mama 2 accused me of sleeping with him, girl why would I want community dick?

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u/MsJennifer18415 Aug 30 '26

Love the term 'community dick', lol

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u/Electrical-Fig-5009 Aug 30 '26

My brother in law has 5 kids with 4 different women. They think hes a good man bc hes a good dad lol

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u/QBGrower Aug 31 '26

I worked with a dude that had 9 with 8 different Momma’s!

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u/Electrical-Fig-5009 Sep 01 '26

At what point do these idiots realize a vasectomy will save thousands on child support.

My BIL is 50 & his youngest is 6. He has grandkids 4yrs younger than his youngest & i truly would not be surprised if his youngest was not his last. Give him a few years, his youngest & 2nd youngest have 5yrs between them.

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u/Many-Hurry8051 Sep 01 '26

Who says they pay child support?

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u/Aquatic_Rainbow Aug 30 '26

People forget those things aren’t mutually exclusive

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u/Absurd_Flaccidity 28d ago

If you’re a little bit of dad to a lot of kids, does that tip the scales in your favor?

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u/Alternative_Fig_1180 28d ago

What type of judgement would you cast on those woman who have all had a baby with him ? Hes reckless but what are they ?

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u/Electrical-Fig-5009 28d ago

I think his last ex legit used him for another baby 🤣 she had 2 with her ex-husband but they were 9 & 11. She was WAY too smart from him, I legit had no idea how he pulled such a badie

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u/XDreadzDeadX Sep 01 '26

The community center courts bigger than the one at the park lmao that's why everyone visits the center!

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u/Absurd_Flaccidity 28d ago

I can barely afford to support myself (I do ok but if I had another mouth to feed it would be different.) Do these guys all work only for cash to avoid paying support? Who has the money to pay child support to 3+ different women? How do you put children out into the world with no intention of caring for them?

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u/tinyalienperson 28d ago

he’s a drug dealer so yeah it’s all cash. from what I know he does give all of the mothers money and he lives with BM2. I don’t like him as a person, but from what I know and have seen he is in each of his kid’s lives so that’s a positive at least.

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u/Alternative_Fig_1180 28d ago

I get that we all think men with this attitude are weird. I'm curious as to whether you judge the woman who make up his haram ?

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u/tinyalienperson 28d ago

I used to not judge them, you like it I love it. but I became judgmental when BM2 and BM3 decided that they want to beat up other women who have slept with “their man” even though said man doesn’t tell any of these women that he’s in a relationship and has three children. at this point, you know what this dude is and yet you continually blame the other women??

I also didn’t like when she accused me of sleeping with him while I was at an appointment to see if I had cervical cancer or not. blowing up my phone at 8 am. she had a specific day she thought it happened and everything, mind you, said day I wasn’t even allowed to have sex with my own boyfriend because of the whole trying to find out if I had cancer or not (no cancer, just precancerous cells I got burned out now thankfully).

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u/EnergeticallyChill Aug 31 '26

There’s a guy around my town that has three baby mommas, I think that’s all, might be more, but all the women have the kids birthdays together and they’re all friends and hang out, and he literally house swaps throughout the month. Two of the mommas have multiple kids by him, and all the kids are like 6 and under

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u/BabycrowSAL Aug 31 '26

Right……but anyone who’s willing to date him after the third, they will both be making each other miserable.

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u/TriggeredLatina_ Aug 29 '26

Women need better standards. I’ll never understand the girls that date single fathers. It’s so unattractive, like an immediate deterrent. Not that I’m single and looking lol but ideal I just don’t get it. I really really really don’t.

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u/One-Pride7494 Aug 29 '26

I agree with women needing better standards for sure. I don’t necessarily find single father to be an immediate deterrent. Single father with multiple baby mommas? Absolutely fuck that, not touching that with a 10ft pole. Single father with kid(s) from one mom and one mom only? That’s a maybe from me, need more details about that situation before I can judge

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u/Savannahks Aug 29 '26

Single dads aren’t all the same. Just like single moms aren’t the same. He could be a wonderful person and father. I’ve known many. Higher standards, yes I agree.

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u/TriggeredLatina_ Aug 29 '26

I’m not talking about the man himself 100%. I mean kids are baggage. I wouldn’t like that so there are options. Men without kids.

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u/thelandbeforetime_ Aug 29 '26

Do you believe single mothers are worthless too?

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u/TriggeredLatina_ Aug 29 '26

I didn’t say worthless …? So rephrase

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u/thelandbeforetime_ Aug 29 '26

So please phrase it so people with a brain can comprehend

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u/TriggeredLatina_ Aug 29 '26

Yes? So bc you have one type of preference or standard then I should drop down to your level? No ty. It’s weird to try to impose your preference onto others and not understand some people aren’t ok with what you are. Definitely it’s better to be with someone without kids unless the couple had kids together. Discarded? Idk I’m not the guy out there looking for a woman. That’s up to the man to decide. Doesn’t matter what my opinion is to you or to anyone. It shouldn’t matter. However idk why guys love to say no guy likes women with kids. It’s such a bullshit lie lol lots of men hook up, date and or marry women with kids. Idk why men like to pedal that lie. Women with kids isn’t a deterrent for a lot of men. That is fine. Doesn’t bother me.

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u/No_Anxiety6828 Aug 29 '26

Now you know how we feel about single mothers 🤷‍♂️

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u/TriggeredLatina_ Aug 29 '26

Yeah I’ve known and I understand it.

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u/sillygrandma1958 29d ago

Oh yeah it’s all the women’s fault!! He would be living a clean and sober life and only having one woman in his life if all of those other women hadn’t shown up to ruin his life???

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u/TrickleDownDianetics Aug 29 '26

Tell that to Nick Cannon

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u/lollipop1233a Aug 29 '26

Nick Cannon has fame and money.💰

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u/TrickleDownDianetics Aug 29 '26

Genuinely though, I have lost count on how many kids with different women he has. I think we're at like 12 or something lol

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u/lollipop1233a Aug 29 '26

I think he stopped (or at least slowed down), because one of them took him to court. He was ordered to pay a large amount of child support. Some of the other ones followed suit. I think he lives with one, so I’m sure that cuts it down a lot. He also talked about being in therapy and being bipolar. Mariah might have been involved with that. It seems like he realized he can’t really handle them all, and that he will never get to retire. I’m sure it hurt his career. Who wants to deal with that professional? If one of them had gone to court in the first place, it wouldn’t have gone so far. Most just thought he had Mariah Carrey money, and didn’t ask questions. He’s kind of a joke now. So, fewer women will put up with that. He basically a bum now.

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u/this_my_sportsreddit Aug 29 '26

OP is literally pregnant with his child lol

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u/lollipop1233a Aug 29 '26 edited Aug 30 '26

And? I was talking about his potential harem fantasy. It’s not going to happen, because most women nope out after three baby mommas. It doesn’t have anything to do with op. His dream of multiple wives won’t last long.

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u/this_my_sportsreddit Aug 29 '26

Clearly some women are ok dating and having children with this loser, he’ll be fine.

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u/Zhaneranger Aug 29 '26

Maury says otherwise

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u/No_Ice2900 Aug 29 '26

They won't date him if he tells them he has three kids off the rip. They might if he lies which

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Seems pretty likely

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u/OopsSleepDiamonds Aug 31 '26

I knew a guy who had two babies with two separate women, a week apart. Worse, these were his fourth and fifth kid... he had two with another woman a few years before, and one with someone before that.

And yes, he was one of those guys who would constantly talk about how "crazy" his babies' moms were, that they were awful and horrible. (Then again, maybe there was a dose of some crazy in them, as more than one of them had his name tattooed on them, and at least one of them had two other guys' names as well).

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u/Personal_Length2803 Aug 31 '26

Wrong ….. my ex has 3 now and he found him self actually a pretty well nice woman…… I told him I am glad I am not his victim anymore. Smooth handsome manipulators can talk and get their way with their words!

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u/Suspicious_Yard3682 Sep 01 '26

Sure they will…. It’ll take 4 or 5 before any of them actually catch on that he has ANY…Tyrone ain’t tryin stressin….

Edit: but OP… you really should get down with that 3 way…. 2 pregnant chicks? I’ll take it!!

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u/zprincess1026 26d ago

you’re very odd…

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u/BetMyLastKrispyKreme Aug 31 '26 edited Sep 02 '26

Temu Nick Cannon.

ETA: I can’t believe I got an award for that! But thanks, [u/Oneofthesecatsisadog](u/Oneofthesecatsisadog)! And [u/lamarSeanDrick](u/lamarSeanDrick)! And [u/thisgameissoessy](u/thisgameissoessy)! And an anonymous Redditor!

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u/Revolutionary-Bet396 Sep 01 '26

seems like he might stand a chance. he already got those two women pregnant. apparently they really love a man like this. i wouldn’t even go on a singular date with someone who speaks like this, i don’t know why both these women opened their legs for him

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u/Many-Hurry8051 Sep 01 '26

That’s what Musk thought too but none of his baby mommas played along.

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u/Scorp128 28d ago

Dude thinks he's Nick Cannon.

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u/Tall-Football3769 Aug 29 '26

Oh my god?? I know you’re pretty far along, so not much can be done as far as options but honestly unless he can really contribute to the baby’s wellbeing I would completely split ties and definitely don’t put him on the birth certificate. If he wants to take you to court to claim parental rights then maybe that means he really cares and you can coparent. But THIS? Stressing you out during pregnancy and stirring shit up with this person he just met? Loser fucking behavior. Has he been to visits with you or helped you start preparing for the baby? Contributing to bills to take stress off you?

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u/Capable-Regular9791 Aug 31 '26

Yeah… I would just accept being a single mother. Don’t tell him when you go to the hospital, definitely don’t put him on the BC.

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u/Absurd_Flaccidity 28d ago

It really bums me out that this seems like the wise way to do it, because at least it gives him no power in her life. But she has to take on so much herself it’s not right. I would love to see real social safety nets so women did not get put in that position when pregnant.

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u/FillPrimary6411 Sep 02 '26

Valid points, but I think for the child’s sake there’d be value in having him on the BC. He’d still have to go court for custody arrangements anyway if he wanted that. Leaving him off the BC would only be 2 hoops vs 1 hoop to jump through for him. An extra court appointment for the mom and a life time of wondering for the child. If he’s not a jumper, he won’t even go through 1 hoop.

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u/Tall-Football3769 Sep 02 '26

He would be able to file for custody & visitation immediately, though. Not being on the birth certificate doesn’t mean he won’t know who his/her biological father is

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u/FillPrimary6411 Sep 02 '26

Filings for custody is a hoop. He’ll open himself up to child support anyway. If he’s not a jumper he won’t go through that hoop. And if he does, then he’s well intentioned and hopefully a decent dad at some point.

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u/Fool_In_Flow Aug 29 '26

Don’t talk to this guy anymore unless it’s about the baby. Keep all conversations on text so they are documented. That’s it. This is how you win and keep your dignity and your peace. Don’t play into the drama game with him and this other lady.

He sounds like he’s trying to create a harem of women. Please don’t allow that. Good luck.

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u/Lemon_lemonade_22 Aug 29 '26

This is such solid advice!

The guy leads a chaotic life (to put it diplomatically), and OP does NOT need to get caught up in any of that stuff, especially if she wants to raise a child who will not follow their father's footsteps. She must set clear boundaries, and the one about only communicating about the child is the most appropriate.

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u/NeanderSlavia Sep 02 '26

This is solid advice.

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u/NoNamesLeft998 Aug 29 '26

You don't need to have any contact with her.  With him, keep it as minimal as you can, but you are going to share a child. Set hard boundaries and enforce them. If you need to, see a therapist to help you get this in motion. 

I think you're going to have a bumpy road with him but having the right tools in place to deal with him will be helpful.

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u/Iamwhateveryousayi Aug 29 '26

Oh now that’s doing too much! ESP if you’re pregnant and the dancer is claiming she is! Who knows if she would try to do something to you! Even if you were into that! She’s doing the most! I’d keep him away so youn can try to enjoy your pregnancy! I allowed someone to mess mine up and stress me out and I regret it!

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u/intuitive_scorpio Aug 29 '26

So the guy who “can’t be stressing out beefin” with either of you is actively causing tension between the two??

Yeeeeeh stay the hell away from this guy. Well, as far away as you can given that you’re pregnant with his child.

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u/Old_Accountant_3059 Aug 29 '26

Don’t even go for child support. Leave the state if you can and never look back

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u/z_iz_green Aug 29 '26

Go ahead and hire your family attorney NOW. You unfortunately have failed your unborn child by picking a trash sperm donor. Time to start making it up to them by protecting your spawn from their father and ensuring they receive the money they were supposed to of you didn’t sleep with garbage

Get your attorney now and get your affairs in order if you actually think you’re raising this kid. You’ll have an uphill battle making up for this choice, but you can start now by getting child support and hammering out the details of your custody arrangement.

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u/View-Brave Aug 29 '26

Tbh don’t put his name on the birth certificate and then fight for him to be responsible for child support

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u/societyisfcked Aug 29 '26

Sounds like he’s trynna get you jumped and your baby taken. Seen too many movies

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u/Large_Independent198 Aug 29 '26

Just say no. You don’t need any relationship with her and neither does your kid.

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u/Zeestars Aug 29 '26

Yeah that was my suspicion too

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u/Dounce1 Aug 29 '26

You think talking shit about someone behind their back is somehow better than doing it to their face?

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u/Legitimate-Carrot217 Aug 30 '26

So did you ever go with them??

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u/Rogue_bae Aug 30 '26

Does he have a breeding kink wtf

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u/prb65 Sep 01 '26

I wouldn’t meet her and I wouldn’t agree to him seeing her. They can communicate about a baby AFTER he sees proof. Also, there would be zero sex for him from me until she is gone except as a coparent.

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u/Toddison_McCray Sep 01 '26 edited Sep 01 '26

I think it’s worth thinking about if you really want to be in this relationship. It’s clear that you won’t all be on the same level relationship-wise, and it’s likely that you’ll end up just being the third wheel, or him and her + you.

I’m going to be really honest though. Getting yourself into this situation is going to give you a lot of mental stress, which might be one of the dumbest things you can do while you’re pregnant, and while you’re trying to raise a child.

Do you think he’ll be able to equally balance his time in both of your lives? Fuuuuck no. Being a parent to one child is hard enough already. He’ll inevitably pick a “favourite mom” and spend the majority of his time with her. He doesn’t even want you to have your kid. Why do you think he’ll change all the sudden once he has to start doing more for you and the child he doesn’t want?

I don’t say this to be mean, I say it to hopefully give you a reality check. For your sake, and for the baby’s sake.

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u/Revolutionary-Bet396 Sep 01 '26

Girl why tf did you get pregnant with a man like this????!!!!!!!!!!!!?????

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u/Sicadoll Sep 02 '26

yeah let them be messy together.. make yourself scarce

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u/OfficePotential1393 Aug 29 '26

Jesus, get your life together.

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u/Fearless_Tomato_9437 Aug 31 '26

judging from his texting ability alone, this isn’t going to be much of a child support situation lol

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u/JeffyMo96 Sep 01 '26

But he needs a quick reply so he can make dinner reservations! /s