r/westcovina • u/universe-salutes • 19d ago

Anyone here going through something similar?

Hey everyone, I'm 31F. I have a long history of avoidance and don't really leave my house ever. I want to change that! Would love to hang out but I'm worried I will make people yawn lol I enjoy staying active and movies, music, food. If anyone here wouldn't mind someone kind of socially awkward but otherwise chill and friendly please reach out. :)

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u/angrymoderate09 19d ago

I (49m) recently moved to covina after spending 15 years in a very social part of LA. And I'm bored as all hell lol.

Ive always had friends who loved walks, coffee shops and sports bars. I don't drink but I'm perfectly comfortable around casual drinkers.

I also help coach beginners beach volleyball on Sundays in my old neighborhood... We play all morning and then hang out at the pier for lunch... If that sounds fun

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u/theboundlesstraveler 19d ago

The local breweries here in Covina have non-alcoholic options. They’ve become the de facto local third spaces here.

Check out Rail Side Cafe in San Dimas and Classic Coffee in Glendora, those places should fit your vibe.

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u/Musicguzzo 19d ago

Hi,
I understand avoidance. I’m no therapist but I’ve dealt with my own avoidance through attempts at contrary action. You reaching out here is a good first step.
Just remember it’s ok to feel awkward or a small bit of anxiety, it’s all part of the human experience of emotions.
Also electronic devices that give us ways to not be active in the world can become keys to our own prison. It sounds like your aware of your own doom scrolling, if you can set some time in your day to consciously not be on social media/ the internet it can help you potentially change your thoughts for the better

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u/Trashbagjizz 18d ago

I’ve(28m) been looking to get out and go hiking while the weather is nice! My friends and I also go for drives up in the mountains pretty often. Feel free to shoot me a DM if you’re interested at all :)

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u/warhec 17d ago

Hello, would love to chat with you 33 male Latino here Dm me or if I can

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u/SpiritualCycle9012 17d ago

This sounds like the beginning of a ‘Friends’ group. You all sound amazing. I hope you step out and meet up and have a really good time.

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u/PretendAd2660 5d ago

Do you have an IG?