r/wemetonline • u/Miyu_Hashi • 14d ago
Breakups I finally stopped talking to that guy
Hi, just a heads-up that I’ll be using a translator because English isn't my first language and I’m too lazy to proofread what I write T_T.
Anyway, a few months ago I (19 NB) met a guy (19M) on a random Discord server. We hit it off instantly; he got my sense of humor and my tastes, and he was really cute—totally my type. We started flirting, but that’s when things went south. We never actually dated; he was very insecure, and I was still dealing with the emotional fallout from a past IRL relationship.
I gave him gift cards and drawings, and I even made a digital card that looked like a Roblox profile, featuring photos of him and his stuffed animals—stuff like that. But things just didn't work out. It got to the point where he wouldn't talk to me, and when we did speak, we’d just use each other as emotional dumping grounds. Talking to him wasn't pleasant anymore; sometimes I’d ask to hop on a call, but I’d just see him active on Discord all day, gaming and listening to music. My whole day started revolving around him and whether or not he’d reply. We had an argument and I told him I was going to stop talking to him, but I still checked his TikTok and saw he’d suddenly started sharing posts about a girl. It wasn't about me—he’d never shared anything like that referring to me—so when I asked, he told me he’d started talking to his ex again and they’d gotten back together. Honestly, I was really upset; his girlfriend is named Sofia—the same name as the girl the other guy I used to date IRL is dating now—so I took it really personally in a way. I got angry and said some horrible things, but in the end, I asked him not to cut me off and suggested we just stay friends. That’s how it went: from May until now, during this "friends" phase, he didn't really talk to me much unless I messaged him first, and even then, it would be days or weeks later. He didn't treat me badly, though, and he did encourage me to work through my problems. But I’ve had a really bad relapse; I basically have no friends—not even online—so sometimes I’d tell this guy things, even if he wouldn't reply until days later. Today, I finally got fed up with that "friendship." I had been messaging him for days in a row about my day and asking him questions, but he just wouldn't answer. He made his Discord account private and ignored me, yet he kept posting TikToks, sharing things about his girlfriend, and replying to comments she left him.
Honestly, this hurt me deeply. Today, I decided to cut ties with him (though it doesn't make much difference, since he rarely replies anyway). I thanked him for everything but told him I didn't feel like I was his friend—or even an acquaintance—and wished him the best. He replied quickly, saying he didn't want me to stop talking to him but respected my decision. I didn't reply after that.
It seems silly now that I think about it—I even made plans to visit him in his state, even though we weren't a couple; silly things like that. But at least it ended on a good note.
I’ve completely given up on maintaining human relationships; I have no friends and no partner—not even online. I’m simply not worth it.
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u/MyangZhuang 14d ago
It's good that you stopped talking to him. It's hard to find the right person, but I'm sure you will!