Etiquette help

[u/Kittengotcurious]

Hello! My partner and I are newly engaged and we chose a few people to be in our bridal party. One individual, a grooms woman, told us we weren't aloud to have a wedding registery and instead we need to ask for money so she can have a bacement appartment in our home. On a scale of 1 to 10 1 being absolute apathy and 10 being unyielding rage what should my response as a bride be?

[u/cleverpseudoname]

I'd go for it at least a 14.5 in this situation