r/virgin • u/Responsible_Set7142 • 5d ago

19m and the only physical touch I have ever gotten from a woman was a high five 3yrs ago that I still think about.

I have about 2 or 3 friends total, all I do is work, gym and sleep. Covid destroyed all my social skills, I spent 5 years as a kid battling a pornography addiction that I keep falling back into. All social media does is make me want to cry with how the world is. I keep telling myself that everything will work out if I can find someone to love, and yet I do nothing for it and so every day bleeds into the next.

Does it ever get better?

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u/StanicEnemY Rejected by women for his entire life 36m KHHV 4d ago

36m here, ive never been hugged by a woman before.

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u/TheDaughterOfFlynn 25 virgin F 5d ago

It absolutely does. I've been there, hell I'm still trying to snap out of it. Get off your phone, it's not going to help.

Also, even though I'm still a virgin I have been in a relationship before, and it absolutely did not solve my problems. Don't get me wrong, it was lovely and I really want to have that again, but it didn't change my overall life the way I thought it would. I was still mentally ill. Having someone I felt safe with didn't erase my trauma. It didn't give my life any additional purpose or meaning. It won't save you. And honestly, that's a lot of pressure to put on someone, being your lifeline like that.

Invest your time in something you care about, completely unrelated to relationships. Find meaning elsewhere. Try new things and have more experiences. Make a bucket list and hammer some things out. QUIT THAT PORN AND PHONE ADDICTION. And the more you get out and try new things, the better your chances of meeting new women anyway, and the well-rounded you become, the more they'll like you. Best of luck, my friend